I’m thinking of divorcing my partner, but in the meantime, I’m having a hard time concentrating on work. My performance hasn’t been affected yet, but I’m having a hard time managing my unhappy personal life while working a demanding job. I’m also considering moving out since we’re both wfh together so I can’t escape. Any tips? My family lives in my native country so no one to turn to now.

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First, I am so sorry you are going through this 🙏🏾 While you are figuring out next steps why not rent a WeWork space so you have an “office” to go to or work from a cafe for a few hours a day.

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Sorry to hear about your situation. I would start with maybe taking some time off so you can focus on getting your personal life together. It's holiday season so it's also not a great time to be alone.
So make sure both you and your partner have some support. Especially since you don't have family around.

I once got out from a long term relationship right around Christmas and decades later I still can't listen to Christmas songs without being depressed. And I also don’t have family around, so I can relate to that too.

Can't stress that enough. Whatever you end up doing, find people you love to be around and talk.

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🤗🤗🤗

Have you considered couple's therapy?

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Sorry that you’re going through this. I would recommend therapy for yourself first. To allow you think and process through what your next step should be so that you’re not moving and making decisions based just emotions.

Can you afford to move out? And pay rent or mortgage in two places? Do you have friends or a support system for when you move out? How/when do you have the conversation of moving out? Preparing for what the outcome of that conversation could be.

Therapy will help you think through and plan properly so that you’re prepared regardless of what you choose to do. Goodluck!!

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Do what you gotta do. Find a place to live that will be your sanctuary. Maybe move in there as a trial, while you go to couples counseling? Find the place first. So you have somewhere to land and take care of yourself.

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