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You're NTA for wanting me time, she's NTA for seeming to want more quality time with you. It's finding the balance that seems to be the problem. Could you try building in more of that quality time into the schedule before gaming?
A couple of hours per day can be a lot if both of you are working and trying to manage a household as well, and even more so if you have any kids. If you said 3-4 hours per week that’s one thing, but 2 hours per day most days is a choice you are making to spend time away from her when you are in fact available. I would encourage you to talk with your wife and see why she is frustrated with you or making you feel guilty. She is likely viewing this as you choosing games over her and feels rejected. Also talk with her to maybe find an activity she would want to incorporate for a few hours per while you play your games.
Agreeed. 2 hours a day? If you work until 5, drive home, eat dinner, then play video games for 2 hours, that could easily put you at 9pm, not counting chores or taking care of kids.
I’m not going to call you an AH without knowing more but your wife’s wishes are not unreasonable.
C. You got a deal. Similar to what they say after shopping. Do you have children? You say, you’ve recently got back into, meaning you weren’t doing it before marriage? Have to keep in mind, that may not be who your wife wanted to marry. That’s different for her. You could be spending QT with her. I was a gamer till my kids were born, then I focused on them. When I had free time, and wasn’t with her, I saved that for the Hall passes with the fellas. Easier to explain hanging out with friends, that sitting at home with her watching you gaming, IMO. She will always believe you could be doing something else.
Make sure it’s really “max a couple hours a day.” I had to stop playing video games, which I also really enjoy, entirely because I felt like I would just lose 6 hours of time while playing.
You could maybe designate a time each day you log off and spend time together?
Also, is SHE getting a couple hours a day of her own free time (and cleaning the house, doing laundry, cooking doesn’t count as “free time”)?
Y’all should just play Minecraft or something together 👀
(Slightly joking but finding a way to mesh your activities with hers is certainly not a bad idea; hanging out while she reads and you game, or something of that nature might work if she’s open to meeting halfway)
This. Often times when my husband is playing video games I am either watching him or working on my crafting near him. Every one in a while I will play with him. He takes breaks and we do something together then he goes back to gaming. It’s his time to decompress and as long as he doesn’t get too rowdy or belligerent I support it.
Are you playing on the main TV or in a central area of the house? Personally, I prefer when my husband uses the TV that isn't in the family room. I hate feeling like his crap is forced on me.
We live in a tiny apartment. One TV. So lots of compromise. Is there a game you all can play together?
Do you think we wives would think couple of hours per day equals 'a little' me time? Can you quantify her me time in hours per day?