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You don’t have to do anything other than to love that baby, and be the best aunt/uncle you can be.
There is also something to be said about kids seeing their parents happy, regardless of partner or situation. Loving, happy people raise great kids. I’d take two happy separated parents over parents who are staying together in a loveless relationship for the sake of the kids.
As a child of parents who should have divorced but are literally still married, this rings true. The grass is not really greener and happy parents = happy baby in my humble experience
Chief
Perhaps the fix here is to separate. You aren’t your sister. She has to live her own life and do what’s best for her and that baby. Like another commenter said, love the crap out of that baby. And be there for you sister. That’s what you should do. But two strong, happy, loving parents that may or may not be together is better than bitter and loveless ones, staying in a relationship only because they have a kid together.
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You’re making it about yourself. Be a good, supportive sister and maybe if you find yourself in a hard situation, your sister will remember this and be there for you, too.
Chief
Studies have shown the it’s healthier for kids to grow up in loving and healthy homes, even if that means divorced homes. When parents hate each other and/or constantly fighting, it’s extremely stressful and unhealthy for children to witness. They hear and see more than adults think they do, and they internalize it.
I've been there & done that. Took many years to re wire my brain. So can attest to this comment.☝️
I think some people didn’t get my point: I was trying to express the fact that I feel bad for her/them and that I’d like to help in the best way possible my sister and growing up the baby
Side note - Two of my kids are married and are doing all the right things. Their odds are pretty good.
My sister, with two young kids, is also in the process of leaving her partner. He’s always been sort of a deadbeat and I am really happy she wants to make this change but i feel so worried and stressed out for her - about if she will be ok financially, what the next steps really look like, how hard her life will be. But, I do think it’s for the best. And im loosing sleep over it.