My boyfriend and I make 200K combined and live in NJ. We have $1000 in monthly car payments combined. That’s all we owe. Our credit scores are in the 800s. We have 50K to put down on a home. We have done the math and I know we can afford much more but he doesn’t want to buy more than a 400K home. I’m almost positive we can afford 500K and be more than ok. But then he starts to talk about how much kids cost and how we will be house poor and we won’t be able to afford kids. 🤔 Am I insane??

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$1,000 in car payments is a lot. Adding a $350K+ mortgage on top is going to leave little wiggle room.

Sincerely,

Someone who took a year to get rid of $1,000 monthly car payments and is going to take another year to save up for down payment on house

Have you looked at the difference in monthly payments on a $350K loan vs. a $450K loan? Keep in mind insurance and property tax, too (and utilities if you’re used to some of those being included in your rent), plus things things like buying furniture and saving for future repairs. Just because you’re approved for a certain amount doesn’t mean you can actually afford it - I’ve seen friends buy at the top of their pre approval and end up house poor. This is your first home, you can always upgrade later on.

You’ll be fine. We make less and have a 600K home. We are still comfortable. It’s just about how you live.

I wish 😭 we are in NJ. The cost of living is so much higher here. But thanks for the support

Hi! Nj realtor here. if you haven’t started the process/husband is still in the fence, you can always confirm by getting a pre approval amount. Also, showing him what he could get with 400k vs 500k could help? Sometimes a visual & imagining yourself in the home helps!

If not, there are definitely nice homes under 400k in parts of NJ that may be able to fit your needs depending on other factors (how many beds, baths, etc) . I’d be happy to assist further if needed

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