My boyfriend is always on his phone when I approach him to talk about something enthusiastically like may be an incident at work or the vacation details I have planned for us. It’s not like he doesn’t listen to me, but instead of having an eye contact, he is always scrolling through Twitter or some app on his phone. It hurts me and makes me feel unloved/angry. Is this normal for guys? What should I do? Please help.

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It's rude. Talk with him about it and if the behavior continues ==> dumpsville. No one is perfect but to do it all the time is unacceptable

I have replied to a comment below yours explaining the current situation. Apparently, he says it’s okay as long as he listens to me 🤧

Social media addiction is a horrible look for anyone. Can’t blame him until you mention it to him that it bothers you. It’s not normal or abnormal behavior.

The problem isn't you. But you do have to decide if it's a deal breaker for you. My hubby is also addicted to media like this. I've decided he has enough redeeming qualities that it was worth marrying him anyway. But that might not be the case for your boyfriend.

It is really hurtful and regularly makes me question whether I'm interesting enough to commit full attention to. But I've decided it's worth living with this insecurity and made my peace with it.

If I ask my hubby to put his phone down for a conversation he will. But it has to be me asking.

It's also really hard to be into initiating intimate time with him b/c it always feels like I'm stepping in on the media consumption - there's never like a time where I could just have a connection with him first. So I suppose that's another thing to think about on if it would be a deal breaker for you.

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Depends from person to person
I was with this girl who was the same. I told her that I need hey undivided attention for sometime during the day and she said it's my fault I can't multitask

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