My problem is a bit more mental health related and I’m curious to see if others can relate. I came into this role super bubbly and energized and I’ve hit a patch of bad depression. Sometimes when I’m doing poorly mentally, I revert to keeping to myself so that my symptoms don’t show as much nor offend anyone. Now I feel like ppl avoid/ignore or are flat out rude and treat me very differently those days. Feelin like I don’t deserve to have my off days when I work. Anyone else a ppl pleaser? Lol

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On days like this I find I'm particularly sensitive and harder on myself. Be more understanding of how you feel and know that you my be exaggerating what's happening because you don't feel you deserve to be treated kindly. Take breaths. Take time to think things through. Be patient with yourself. Also listen to things that motivate you and go for a walk and just let your mind be.

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Thank you for sharing this. It makes me wonder if there may have been anyone else in your life that made you feel like you weren’t “enough” unless you were making someone other than you happy. I think it’s hard work to undercover the roots of patterns that once served us (to protect from someone else’s wrath or neglect) but that no longer serve and in fact start to hurt us. Once you figure out where this pattern came from you can Gently thank it for serving you at whatever points in your life you actually needed it to protect you, and now it’s no longer needed for duty. Invite it to take a rest, and transform the space it leaves into what’s yet to be.

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i totally feel this. when im quiet, people sense that something is wrong and it makes them uneasy. you are entitled to your off days. my advice is let people know you're not feeling well right off the bat (i use headache as my excuse bc i have chronic migraines already) and that is an easy way to let people know that its not them, im not mad, im just suffering and need patience and understanding.

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It takes practice to not always please people. That means you will run into what you are experiencing. Know that is okay, and you will learn as you continue to practice setting boundaries while also connecting with others.

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