Need some honest advice:
My husband and I come from different parts of India. They speak a local language while my family speaks Hindi. They can speak little bit of Hindi and English too, not great but basic stuff. My husband and his family keeps insisting that I learn their language. I have learnt the basics and can understand it but not conversational. I have also not been putting in enough effort because I am not fully bought in. This has created a wedge between us which I don’t know (contd.)

How long did you try for kids before considering adoption? My husband has suggested we start exploring but I’m kind of scared to be honest and I feel like I so badly want the experience of being pregnant

My wife finally told me last night that she didn't know what I do last night ( I'm a securities lawyer) but she didn't want to sound stupid. Its been 5 years.

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

When did suffering through a work day in constant physical pain due to a medical issue become normal? The guilt I feel for staying home is more than I ever expected when I wanted to become a teacher.

My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

What do you do when you feel the goalpost has been/is being moved re: billable requirements? Like there's a spoken vs unspoken? I chose this job based on billables vs salary and what I'm being told I'm expected to do now is 20-30% (at least) > than what was initially agreed upon. Given my other life responsibilities, this is creating a huge strain & I feel like this is slowly getting harder & harder on my spouse & kids. I'm grateful to have lots of good work but not sure how to course correct.

Any recos on great childcare in New York (ideally west village / Chelsea / Greenwich / soho)?

Have you ever taken a job you know you will hate because you needed the money right away? I have a family to take care of. I don't want to be plowing through our savings for selfish reasons like my mindframe at work, but I don't want to make our lives worse by being miserable. It's a matter of really ruining some of our financial future if we don't get money soon.

Fellow desi folks - how do you keep your h4 spouse occupied? We are going to be marrired in january and want to provide her as much support as possible. .

She said she wants to pursue MBA but supporting her tutuion fees is currently out of limits for me given im purchasing a family home in mumbai which is going to cost me 4.5cr.

How do i bring up this topic without sounding too negative that i cant support her tution fees but can cover all other expenses (living,transport,food,travel,education

How much per week/month do you spend on daycare?

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

How do people make friends here? I have the ones i grew up with and a couple I made in the last couple of years (neighbors/through mutual friends) but I generally find that people here just stick with their social circles

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

How common are prenups in UK among middle-class? I'm thinking of asking my SO for one but I worry it would be viewed by anyone else as a one foot-out-the-door kinda situation. I'm just trying to be safe with little I have, seeing my friends' marriages.

The man I love is now married to someone else. He was my best friend since university (were now in early 30s), we never pursued anything romantically (was too scared to tell him) and now he’s married to someone else and they have a baby girl. I went to see them and they have this perfect home and family. His wife is perfect, pretty & young and smart. I’m still single. I want to be happy for him but I was so jealous and sad and felt like crap. I can never tell him. Just had to let it out. :((

Everyone who I want to like me or to hangout with doesn’t respond to my texts or tells me they are too busy. This weekend I reached out to 12 people to see if they wanted to grab coffee or a drink or go for a walk. The number of people who just didn’t respond astounded me. I ended up eating dinner in bed by myself and getting brunch on my own.

The only people who reach out to me, I don’t want to hangout with. I don’t have the same interests as them and have to try really hard… cont below

Is it okay to disappear from friends & family to work on career change goals (several months)? I want to focus and not get distracted by friends & family needs to see me or attend certain things as it takes up a lot of time. If I focus for a short time, I can quickly achieve my goals to switch. I can hangout with them after all of that. What do you think?? Any feedback will be appreciated.

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

I read this super interesting article about how big companies like Toyota are investing in social-emotional training for their employees and seeing massive benefits. I actually think this could be a whole separate class for students of all ages. Learning about conflict resolution, growing your own self-regulation skills...it's really important.

Hi everyone how is orcale to work? Is there a hiring firing culture.

Has anyone ever transitioned from account management / customer success in tech sales to PMM? Any advice for pursuing this route?

Hi! Looking to see what the average salary range is for a Workman’s Comp Adjuster with one year of current experience, in the northeastern NJ area. I feel as though I’ve brought value to the company, eagerly take on side projects and additional work if requested, but also feel underpaid.

6 PM- This bowl will be lit 🔥

More lit than ever!!

What is the probation period in Deloitte USI for lateral hire?

One of my senior managers is a boomerang and told me she was laid off when she was 7 months pregnant about 10 years ago. I think she was a senior or manager. She was in a specific group and everybody was laid off. It wasn’t performance based.

Would you work at your company again if you were laid off?

Which are the top consulting firms in the region after MBBK , heard strategy& has a really bad culture so exclude that too?

How do you deal with imposter syndrome? I'm a new therapist and I work with a bunch of women who have been doing this for ages. They're all really sweet, but I can't help feeling like I'm way out of my league. I mostly see younger clients which I guess works in my favor, but I just feel like I'm totally incompetent compared to the women I work with.

Looking for opportunities for the node js or backend developer.
Experience: 2.6 years
Skills : node js , angular, git, mongodb, sql
If there is any openings, plz let me know.

I’ve found it very hard to order with my team and still be keto with the places we decide on. What are some common substitutions or adjustments y’all make when ordering?

Worst company among WITCH when it comes to policies?

Hey All,

Just wanted to know what's the highest salary offered to a person in Cognizant who got 5.5+ yrs experience into infrastructure domain (with anyone of the following skills like Linux server admin, DB admin, Middleware admin) ?

Note : Irrespective of his last drawn salary

Thanks in advance.

To those who divorced or called off the engagement, did you take the ring back? And if so, what did you do with it?

Interviewing for Amazon L6 PMT role. Levels seems to be a bit outdated or the bases are all low. Is L6 a lateral move for PL (manager)? Friends joined as L6 post mba so seems like a ‘waste’ of 3 years in consulting to switch for the same job. Any credit for working these 3 years to shorten the time to L7?

How do you recommend finding recruiters who specialize in a particular geographic area? (Tampa Bay specifically)

Currently preparing for a final round case interview at the director level for a CVS Health graduate summer internship. Any tips or things I should look out for/emphasize? First time making a final round. Thanks in advance.

Hi all
I am working with Wipro
I am about to take up the oracle plaaning implementor certification 2022 and its mandatory to complete it before the year end.

I have already taken up once and scored 10 percent less than whats required.

Can anyone who have completed the oracle certification,provide your insights

Thanks

Looking to meet new folks in NJ area. Preferring couples (without children), who are chill, likes playing board games, enjoy outdoorsy activities and are vaccinated. We are in our early 30s and are LGBTQIA+ friendly.

P.S. not being disrespectful towards folks who have kids but we have learnt from experience that we are not at the same conversational plane with them.

Hi all, has anyone temporarily transferred to the Canadian office of their firm and done the Canadian PR application while they were there on work visa?

How long does I-140 preparation take? From the moment they receive the hard copy PERM doc to the moment they mail out the application? Can this be done technically under 2 days if law firm obeys?

What to do when parents dig their toes into your relationship? They don't approve of who I'm with and very vocal about it.

In 10 years, this may be in the rear view or they may not let up. Anyone with experience in this?

Going to India from DCA (flights were cheaper) but I live in Houston. Flight from DCA is at 10 pm. Should I book my flight from Houston to DC the same day or one day earlier? Given the flight cancela.

Anyone have experience with shipping personal items back to India using containers? A friend is moving back and any recommendations or suggested shipping firms will be appreciated. Thanks in advance!

I am going to India for a month. May have to change my return date. Any suggestion on what insurance/other option to reduce the ticket update cost impact.

Fellow desi folks - how do you keep your h4 spouse occupied? We are going to be marrired in january and want to provide her as much support as possible. .

She said she wants to pursue MBA but supporting her tutuion fees is currently out of limits for me given im purchasing a family home in mumbai which is going to cost me 4.5cr.

How do i bring up this topic without sounding too negative that i cant support her tution fees but can cover all other expenses (living,transport,food,travel,education

Anyone recently got their PERM approved - how long did it take? The USCIS website shows the avg. Duration is down to 3-4 months now!!

Hello! Need some advice. Trying to move to SOs city and EY does not have a big base in the city so i was told the move won't happen. But i am finding it hard to strategize my job search.

Does anyone here have a Tesla? Should I do it???...

Currently 31 with 6.5 YOE and single . Should have NW of 250k by end of this year. (No significant assets in India). Considering this money all reminds invested I should have a decent nest egg for retirement. Have an LIC policy that will be worth arnd 50 lakhs when I surrender it (plan down payment for an apartment). Struggling to convince parents this should be enough for me to move back. They think I should move back when I have more financial security. What more should I plan for ?

Which service(s) do you use and can recommend to send money to India?

I had no income in India and was in US the entire year. Do I need to file IT return with 0 income?

SO and I got in to a disagreement on the background of Indian tech CEOs. It appears that they are all from 1 or 2 major communities in India.

While he thinks that its genetics/being naturally gifted that got them to where they are I believe it's the environment & discipline that made them successful. We are not from said communities but curious to hear your thoughts on who is more accurate.

A lot of my friends (on H1B) have bought houses in suburbs (or away from City) the past year. I really would like to stay near City (NYC). Any of you considered or have bought apartments in City area instead of huge suburb houses? Any pros and cons that you are aware of?

Anyone able to see the moon in NJ?