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Ugh annoying. Weird that the mom wouldn’t want some girl time with you also. Why don’t you just talk to her about it? Just be like we love your whole fam but would love some dates to just be the girls so my girl doesn’t feel any sadness about her dad. Is that cool? And see how she responds. A good person won’t be offended by that. If you get a weird reaction I say, choose other people to have play dates with bc who needs that energy in life?
Thanks I might do that. My little girl is ok but I just don’t get why we can’t have a mom and kid afternoon. I’ll see how it goes! Thank you
Let him go. Let him go.
Nice!
Consider that her husband may be starved for human interaction (as mine is) and she’s in charge of making friends for the two of them. Not saying he should come, just that all you might have to say to her is “moms and kids movie day” or some such and she’ll get the hint. Maybe.
Yea this happens with my husband. When we make a new friend he’s keen to join
I even had 4 tickets on hold for the mom, me and our girls and of course dad has to come to. While my daughter hasn’t said anything it bothers me she is constantly reminded she doesn’t have a dad around (she’s only 3.5 years old). Bc I e always been solo mom I may be clueless but am I way off to think just moms and their girls can go see Frozen?!
My husband comes often to these types of events...but mainly because he doesn’t see our daughter often due to work and weekends are the only time he gets to spend with her and he cherishes those moments and doesn’t want to miss out on kiddo time.
Yeah, just because they work near the school doesn’t mean they’re with their kid. Weekends still probably are prime kid time together. But agree with above, you should ask to understand and express your concerns about your kid missing their dad. That said, and please don’t take this the wrong way, but if your ex isn’t present in your kid’s life, maybe if this dad is around he could be a good male influence too?
Maybe a full time working mom also wants to spend time with her husband. It's hard to get time together during the week and it's a bummer when your friends who aren't with a partner expect you to leave your partner at home on a Saturday. Weekend time is family time.
I personally think that’s weird. I never bring my husband to stuff like that and my husband never brings me. We’ve done family stuff, but it’s been outlined as such. My husband is taking my son and going with his dad and a son to a basketball game and the moms are not going.
My spouse and kid and I travel as a unit on weekends. It’s primary family time. If other moms (single or otherwise) have been annoyed by him being there I’ve not noticed. In fact, I suspect many of them like him more than me!
Exactly this
That might just be their family unit. Maybe look for other moms who are willing to do more solo things if it bothers you and your daughter that much. Btw have you even asked your daughter if it bothers her? Sometimes our kids are more resilient than we think and we’re just projecting onto them. Sending this with love ❤️
Yeah I don’t want to ask bc she already goes through waves of saying she wants a new dad or doesn’t have one bc hers is in Florida. Would rather not highlight it if she’s ok. Just wish we could have a mom/daughter afternoon sometime
I am in total agreement with you OP, and I’m not a single mom. For our family (2 kids) my husband and I take turns over the weekend so that one person can get some personal time. We both work too much during the week so an hour or two to ourselves is important. Also, maybe because he’s an introvert, the last thing he wants to do is join us on a play date.
From my perspective, weekend play dates are my time to get to know the other mom, woman to woman, and find support over parenting stories. Maybe because I work with so many men or I just find it much easier to connect with the mom. It drives me nuts when the dad hangs out with us.
Hopefully you’ll find your tribe of like minded moms!
I think it’s all in the positioning. Maybe lead with, “I got four tickets to X. Would you and your daughter want to join?” Or propose something like a girls’ afternoon with pedicures and shopping.