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I think it’s fine to share the broad topic so people generally know what’s up if you are flexing more than normal. On the other hand, intimate details blow-by-blow reports / constant discussion on the topic is too distracting and will only serve to make you look entirely off your game to your team. I would generally treat peers and reports the same on the topic. If they need to know that something is up, let them know the general issue, and then keep the rest as private as possible.
Although I'm quite discreet about my personal affairs at work, I think it's fine to talk about some parts of your personal life with coworkers in order to get to know them better, but consider the nature of the information and the context. I understand the need to create awareness about your divorce, but I'll advise you to keep the details to yourself. Trust me, you don't want to be the butt of people's jokes. Not many people really care about what you're going through; they just want to be entertained.
Personally, my coworkers only know that I'm married and have a dog. They don't know anything else besides that. I don't need people using my personal life to make assumptions. If you feel comfortable sharing what you're going through, I think that's fine, but I am always a fan of keeping work and life separate.
Divorce is very personal and especially for executive women, you can get judged even more. I would keep it to yourself.
Be yourself and if sharing that makes you feel better that’s great. If out for drinks/social and folks ask share more but resist the blow by blow. If they are not asking though, don’t offer much up. Being confident enough to open up and be human is a big part of being seen as a leader IMO. Sending positive vibes to you 😘😘😘
I'm in the camp of letting people know in broad strokes.
My ex had been to many company functions and people were familiar with him, and "us" as a couple. Not being transparent would have been strange.
Expect some odd reactions - my boss said "oh good, now you can throw yourself into work more." like the 60+ hours I was already working wasn't enough.
I’d resist the urge to share this. Once it’s out there, you can’t take it back.
Belated reply - I just came back on platform. As a CPO you have influence on the culture - with your leadership team. The holidays make it a special and sensitive time for many. Manage your boundaries and optics to build the culture you seek. Inclusion is an action. Lead with positivity, keep your truths high level and allow others to feel safe in convo with you. They’ll start to reflect back the same. Unless they’re an intimate friend and asking, don’t share your divorce details. If you have an emotionally mature circle, reassess. But keep it light unless asked. I get the signaling that you’re human so folks enable grace and space. Let those signals be about your life not just your divorce.