Parent wants their kid in an advanced class I know they're not ready for. How do I stand my ground without crushing a 5th grader's dreams?

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Be honest with the parent and say that based on your observations you do not recommend such a jump. Is there a test to pass to qualify for the class? If not does the child need only letters of recommendation?

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Well, what makes you think that they are not ready for them to advance to the next level? Surely you have some criteria that you're measuring them by and can articulate that in a way that other people would understand? Or are there some formal requirements that have to be met in order to qualify for a skip?

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I don't know which parents are worse, the ones that believe education is a waste of time because you don't need a high school diploma to work at Walmart or Burger King or the ones who think their child is a genius who will surely find a cure for cancer someday if he can just overcome the incompetence of the teachers he has to deal with. If a parent insists on their child being placed in an advanced class, I explain to them that the coursework is more difficult and more time-consuming. For those who need this extra challenge and can cope with it, it is an excellent choice. For those who do well in the regular course but are not really accelerated/advanced, they will go from being in the top of their class to being in the middle to bottom of the class. Instead of feeling success, they will feel failure. If they do not take my recommendation, I give their child an advanced course test from the previous grade level -- a 5th grade advanced course for a student going into 6th grade. I tell them that a student who passed 5th grade should make at least an 85% on the test if they are cut out for the advanced class. If they child comes close to that, I place him in my advanced class. Based on his performance on that test, I tell the parents that while their child may have been an A or B student in the regular class, the more intense academic requirements of the advanced course might have him making a C or B. The letter grade is also weighted for advanced classes.

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Data, data, data. It tells the story so you don't have to. If they are not ready for it benchmarks and standardized tests will show it. Use what you have.

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