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It’s probably a mixture of both. This happened with me with my therapist when I said that I wanted to start my own firm. She talked me out of it because I didn’t have a solid plan. I regret listening to her to this day and wish that I would’ve went with my gut instinct. Don’t fall into the trap that you need to prove anything to your therapist or get your therapist’s approval. You should do what’s best for you. You can always go back to practicing if your passion doesn’t make ends meet. At least you can say you tried
You shouldn't be using your therapist like this. Therapists are good at providing you advice on how to think not how to use that process to resolve specific problems. Talk to your therapist about issues you have thinking about opening The firm and not about whether it's a good idea
Therapist is worried you will not be able to foot that bill if
You leave big law
Get a new therapist. Trust yourself - if you want out, get out.
I can recommend career coaches. I would also be happy to help you decide if there’s any merit to your therapist’s advice. Feel free to DM me.
Same here! I am going to DM!
Therapists, even well regarded ones, got a PhD in Psychology, paid cash for it (these programs sponsor all the other grad students), and are not exactly the brightest of PhD recipients (but don’t tell them, they think they are really really smart), and they tend to project their issues onto their patients.
They learned enough to ask some questions and suggest some stress and anxiety relief techniques. They are kinda like a lot of lawyers.
Yours may have a point. But they just as likely we’re rejected from law school and got the psych degree instead and are giving you advice they should have given themselves.
Think about it?
Being a lawyer is terrible. But so are a lot of other jobs.
Nah. Had some useful ones. But you can’t lean on them for stuff they simply aren’t capable of doing.
I feel sad, help me work out what’s going on = wheelhouse.
I hate my job and it doesn’t pay enough = so do they, and you get paid more, so suck it up and give me a nice holiday gift.
You know there are professional coaches who deal with stuff like this? Therapists aren’t the ones suited to do this.
Can you recommend one? Or where to find one?
Mine told me the same thing. But I think it was because I have only been at one firm for the past 7 years and I am miserable here. So she told me try a different firm and then decide if it’s being a lawyer I don’t like or it was just that firm.
Talk to someone who has done it! (I did this, if you don’t know someone personally and I’m happy to chat.) There are pros and cons, you have to be in the right mental space to break out of practice, and you have to have a plan for what’s next. And sometimes, just finding the right attorney job is also the answer (I’m an attorney recruiter now, so happy to go down that path with you if that’s where a conversation takes us). But a therapist (I love mine, no shade) isn’t a career coach and doesn’t necessarily know the legal industry.
I’m really grateful that you posted this. My therapist made me feel like the worlds biggest idiot for thinking that I could start my own firm. Im glad so many others are sharing their stories. Now I know im not crazy
Does your therapist have a phd? If not, I would not go by recommendation.
Haha whether they are right or not, they’re giving you the safest advice. I think it’s good for therapists to offer some suggestions, because it allows you to either go along or disagree. Taking the non legal job would be the riskier move, so either follow your therapist’s advice or don’t. But have a good reason.
Have you talked about your fork in the road with people who know you well? Your therapist’s opinion is just a data point. They aren’t the voice of g_d. But you also shouldn’t be annoyed by their advice. They’re just telling you what they think is best for you, filtered through their own life experiences to an extent, as will everyone in your life who loves you. But the decision is yours and yours alone, which is both invigorating and terrifying
Are you at a firm currently?