Recently single at 27. The guy (who’s 33) broke up with me because I don’t spend enough time with him (4 months in and we were seeing each other 2-3 days a week. He gets a bit lonely and wants to basically co-habitat - a lot of his friends are married). I was busy with work, studying for the gmat, seeing friends, etc. Not sure if I should try to spend more time with him and give in to what he wants or try to start over again out (it’s really hard). Any advice would be very helpful 🥹

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This is a recipe for disaster going forward. You should each have your own separate lives to do the things you enjoy doing. 2-3 days a week is a lot 4 months in. Basically wants to be with you all the time . I view this as a means to gain control

2-3 times a week is a lot. I would honestly just do once a week or twice max, but probably every other week or so.

Hahah yea I wouldn’t go with this every other week so clearly standards are different, every 2-3 days seems just right but also if you are that excited about someone you would naturally want to see them as much as possible. I’m not dating anyone I only want to see every other week, waste of time

Sounds like you’re the winner here

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