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No, sexual compatibility is an important part of a relationship and you need to know if you’re compatible prior to marriage. It’s like “should a couple live together before marriage?” Absolutely, it’s one thing to date someone and entirely another thing to live together. I think marriage is just a formality, it shouldn’t be gatekeeping relationship milestones that determine a couple’s compatibility
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@BT1 agree!!!
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I’m waiting until marriage. Religious reasons. Waiting has often been challenging. But my parents waited and they both said it was worth it. I want to be the type of guy who is willing to do the hard thing.
Yes. They should get married as soon as possible. Premarital s*x is a cancer
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@SA1 thank you a much I really appreciate the time you took to give the links. What about that @AC1?
Note: I'm just looking for more knowledge don't be mean or get mad at each other we can all agree to disagree in a civil manner.
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No.
Marriage is a social construct formulated to protect people from insecurity of having to remain competitive in the dating market.
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@BAH1 I think that's reasonable!
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The best argument I heard for delaying sex was actually in a pre-marriage counseling session. It was provided by the church but it wasn’t the normal “because God said so”. They talked about the chemicals released during sex, and how those were similar to the chemicals released during nursing and how they served as a bonding agent. And how after sex you feel closer to that person because of sex. And how that chemically induced feeling can hide real problems in the relationship. After hearing that, I noticed it with partners. How I could be annoyed with them, then have sex and feel all squishy around them and forget that annoyance. Does that mean you need to abstain? Not necessarily, that’s on you and your beliefs. But should you be aware of those chemically induced feelings? Definitely!
“Proper time” is when you’re ready. For some that’s in high school, for others is until their wedding day. There is no “right” time.
Nope, it's not natural.
People should get intimate when they're comfortable doing so.
When those rules were first created, contraceptives did not exist and people got married much earlier.
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I mean my friends who save themselves for marriage (not me) don’t do so bc of contraceptives. They just do so bc of faith and wanting to save themselves for their spouse
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My husband and I slept together on our first date. We’re adults in our 40s and by no means virgins. As BT1 said, compatibility is very important in terms of intimacy as well as communication style.
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Agree!! I am.refering more to the first timers.
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Yes (assuming you mean sex).
When they're ready/found someone worth marrying.
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Oh, ideally someone who shares the same values as me, kind, honest, that I find good looking
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Wait until marriage? No.
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@SeniorA1 had to create an account to read the full article which actually has more info. Thank you
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Wait until marriage? Absolutely not. Do it when you feel ready.
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Oh I get that @D1 but what age you think it's ok to start having intercourse?
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They should get intimate whenever both parties are comfortable being intimate.
OP what are you gonna do with all these disparate answers - I am more interested to know that! Lol.
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Yes.
When they know each other for 2 months, maybe 3 months top.
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Holy shit OP, the world is going to spit you out.
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I think it’s whatever you feel is best for you. I waited but I can imagine it’s doesn’t seem as practical for people in todays society esp if you don’t get married young.
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In one word NO
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Why not?
You do what feels best for you. I waited. You don't have to. Whenever you feel ready, that's the right time.
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It depends what you’re looking for?
In modern society a lot of us are looking for partnerships, hence sexual compatibility is imperative.
If you don’t mind ending up with a roommate then sure, you don’t need to have sex before.
The more you have sex and the more you discover new things the more you understand what you like and what works for you.
I guess someone wouldn’t want to discover these things if they think it’s not a vital part of their values. But then, where are you also going to find someone who thinks the same? And if you don’t, are you okay with your marriage falling apart or one of you cheating? And/or just being generally unhappy?
Also historically societies have been built around sons inheriting wealth and title, therefore it was crucial to know if your son is actually yours. This is the main reason womens’ values were centred around their purity. The womb was a commodity and a vital part of lineage, and by default was attached to a person that needed to be controlled and manipulated for this greater benefit.
Personally I think anything that remains today re body count etc stems from the above. In reality it doesn’t matter when looking for a partner.
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I am a woman and I’m quite certain I know a good amount about the subject. Both via my own vast experiences and via speaking explicitly about it to people form different walks of life.
Again, if you think that when people say sex they mean literally just the intercourse only just let’s me know that we aren’t talking about the same things in the same capacity.
And in all I would still argue that if you fool around it doesn’t mean you have a good understanding of how it’ll be when you actually have intercourse.
Moreover if you’re fooling around but saving your theoretical hymen for something, I genuinely have nothing really to say to you. As per my first comment, you do you.
I personally think it’s silly, obsolete and deprives you from a lot of vital learning and experiences.
I am not a breeding horse or a glove that my value decreases in ‘usage’. I am a free human enjoying her life and I will keep it like that. And may my paths never cross with people that think of me as an object to put a value on.
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@C2 I really like the inheritance argument!!
That’s some awful sex if you are waiting until marriage