So I just came out at my small firm in a small southern town. Historically, I haven’t discussed my personal life at work— but I had to give notice anyway. I told the partners I’m moving to be with my boyfriend. It was a surprisingly lovely conversation given that I’m at a firm of rich old men, deep in the heart of Tr*mp country.

How do you deal with a senior member of the team that doesn’t value your input? I’d love to be more involved but I feel like I’m not given a chance to

Were you ever thrown under the bus by your boss? How did you deal with it?\

Has anyone successfully moved laterally in an org to escape a bad boss? How did you do it and how did you handle any political ramifications? (cont)

Doing those mid year peer/self review kills all time that would be better spent pretending to help my clients

Big 4 Partners, what is your take on mental health breaks? If an employee in your team takes a mental health leave would they be looked at unfavourably/ would someone’s candidature be shelved if they say they’re returning from a mental health break and looking for a job at your firm?

Favorite jeans brand for wearing to work in a business casual environment?

Anyone ever hire a promising creative into their group only to have them rage quit a month later and torch teammates & managers on their way out? I lead a UX group. Gave 0 indications. Background checks were clean. Had this happen only once before—a humble, hard-working Jekyll reveals himself to be a self-important, arrogant, belligerent Hyde. Anyone else?

I am a sixth-year associate overseeing a second year. They are an exceptionally good associate. I am honestly shocked at the work product I receive and the way they go above and beyond. The issue I have is that they sometimes take awhile to turn things around. For example, I ask for a draft response to the client, and they take three-four days. I know they’re busy, but I would like to address this in a positive way. Any suggestions?

Do consultants get fired from a client for moving furniture around? (like a stand alone monitor) from an unused room he was given to sit, supposedly reserved for auditors. Asking for a friend 🙃

What's the weirdest thing anyone has ever said to you at work? One time a co-worker divulged to me that they had a collection of troll dolls that they named and sometimes still played with.

Hi question: let’s say you have a client who kicked his ex gf’s leg rather than the door and left bruising. UK charge is assault by beating; is this considered “serious bodily harm” by UK standards ?

At an in-office happy hour I once had a coworker shout out loud that she doesn’t trust people who do not drink upon discovering I had OJ in my champagne glass. #rude #IdidntGiveAfuck

What type of attire is usually worn to town hall? It’s my first one. Cocktail dress, formal dress, or casual but nice?

How do you deal with not getting the desired output from somebody working under you? I think I’ve given enough examples and direction but the work still isn’t where I need it.

My male boss recommended the book “The Confidence Code” which is a self help book for women. It was recommended to all the females that work under him. I feel like that's a little inappropriate?

For those women with children or who are currently pregnant, when did you tell the partner you work with/HR that you were pregnant?

So I'm the only black advisor in my office and I feel so out of place. I walk into meeting early and people won't notice I'm there and everyone wears really expensive shoes and clothes. They all have their cliques and then there's just me.

Tips for working with passive aggressive/rude manager?

I started a new job as an “office manager” at the end of January. The duties seem to align more with those of an EA, and I’m ok with that. Except my boss is a control freak. He scolds me over every little thing, how I load the dishwasher, maybe I didn’t push my chair in. Last week he told me I needed to work on my appearance. I was shocked. I bought all new clothes from Ann Taylor that are perfectly acceptable for business casual. He hates me. Move on ASAP or try to stick it out ?

Non-tech person here: does anyone know how to download salesforce icons that can be used in PPT?

We all just grindin (work) or why so quiet?

My utilization is 90% but all of my clients are small jobs. Does that look worse than someone who works on the larger, higher revenue generating jobs with all else equal (utilization/performance)?

Hi Fishes,

If the gross CTC is more than 120K in Poland, tax will be 32% right?

Are there any other deductions apart from this?

My assumption is, we get atleast 68% of our gross. Are there any ways this can further reduce?

For people who moved to Poland from India.
How long does the visa/work permit process take after accepting the offer?

Any help is appreciated.

Hi, I am travelling to Poland on work visa in January 2023. Also I am getting married in December 2022. I am thinking of getting my spouse name added in my passport. Will my work visa will still remain valid in my old passport? Or there will be issues at immigration?

Should I take $120k offer for devops job in LA? 2 YOE

Hi Fishes,

I need 11 likes to start chatting with Individuals in the group.
Pls help

Regards

Anyone worked for an in-house agency? Pros and cons? Did/do you enjoy it? Would you recommend it? More stable? More money?

If Sprinklr is giving 18 LPA fixed component, what is the in-hand amount monthly ?
Considering the food vouchers and fuel reimbursements.
Thanks

How much should I expect as a L4 CSA at Microsoft, living in Texas? Want to know if I’m being made a fair offer.

Hi All,

I have offer from Accenture with 15.5 LPA with 21percent VPA including 3.25 L variable pay. The pay is for Level 10 and domain is SAP, YOE is 4.6. So what is the pay range for Level 10 and I do have counter offer so can I negotiate further with Accenture.

What are the plans for return to office? Any ideas.

Accenture strategy folks.. can someone confirm if work from home is about to end?

Im working in AUM reporting side and looking to automate some daily and monthly processes that are done in excel. I know it is possible with python but I know little to no python any suggestions? Or any other software that may be able to help!

Any 🐠 here in Deloitte’s Operations Transformation Practice (Revenue Cycle) - looking to connect and learn more about it.

We all just grindin (work) or why so quiet?

Any Boston folks?

Any Tampa Bay people in this bowl?? 😊

Hey everyone! Glad there is this bowl!

Anyone in New York City that can recommend queer legal communities other than just Lambda (which is great! Just want to broaden networking/community opportunities)

For whatever reason, there are a ton of gay lawyers in Baltimore. On a regular basis,I've noticed myself, opposing counsel, and the judge are all gay. Anyone else experience this where they live?

Happy Thanksgiving all!

Hi gay lawyers in Boston! How are you all holding up during the pandemic?

My partner (also an attorney) is getting top surgery next month, and it will be an inpatient procedure. Any thoughts on how to explain to my firm that I will be out of touch for a day or two without getting too far into the weeds? Should I just say surgery? That seems dramatic.

What do you all do to make non-professional / personal connections? Particularly with the Coronavirus, and being in domestic relations, I wake up, go to work, work out, go home. So outside of law, my interactions with people are only at the gym given that my area is draining— particularly at the moment. Probably a good thing for now; but if we take coronavirus out of the equation, I’m interested what others in the community do to develop personal connections.

What should I be reading or researching? First gen lawyer here, always been small firm. I’m at a 2 attorney firm now and was just approached about becoming a partner. The boss wants to clean up the books so I can review them and we can discuss. Other than professional connections, I have no idea where to turn for info/insight. I’m definitely interested, but obviously this is a big decision, so I don’t think a “partner? Sure, I’m in” is appropriate.

I keep hearing LGBTQ+ being referred to as “ The Alphabet Mafia”. I love this. I motion to fully embrace this trend by the community. All in favor, say “I”.

Anyone in philly?

How’s the LGBTQ community in other places. I’m in Los Angeles and I find it difficult to connect.

Any gay folks who are the only gay person? I am the only lawyer for my company and the only gay person too.

Where’s my trans & nonbinary fam at?

NYC, anyone going to the gala tomorrow?

What can law firms do to improve lgbtq numbers? Beyond the meaningless empty stuff they do now.

I have to tell my parents that I got engaged this weekend. They haven’t been taking the coming out well over the last year (i.e have isolated themselves from their community, screaming and crying when I’m on the phone with mom, dad hasn’t spoken to me since July). I’m incredibly nervous about this conversation. Going to have it in about two hours. Any words of advice?

(Family Law Attorney) Straight clients when their cases are not going my way: Accuse me of sleeping with their ex husbands Queer clients when their cases are not going my way: Come to me with genuine concern because their exes have put a curse on me and I'm being brainwashed to not work hard on their cases It's neat that all my clients who hate me also think that I'm an incredible lawyer who can do anything and am just choosing not to because of my sexuality/susceptibility to witchcraft