So I’m AuDHD, I just got a promotion to SM, but I have been charging out as an SM for almost a year now, and acting SM on all my projects for a year and a half, and my autistic brain is struggling with all of the congratulations.

Like I have enough awareness to know that the neurotypical script is to act all flattered and excited and nervous and like I’ve been given a big and scary gift but like… My natural reaction is “uh yep, it’s about time” but I know that would not be taken well by anyone

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I think that’s an honest and understandable reaction for anyone. It’s ok to just say thank you, and be humble about it.

And congrats!

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Maybe you can reframe it? Like they’re saying congratulations, the hard work you’ve been doing for so long has FINALLY been recognized either a title change and presumably a raise. I struggle with this as the congratulations giver too because it seems off the NT script to say things like holy crap that promotion took way longer than it should have!

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Well not to say another congrats but congratulations because that is exciting. However, I do understand where you are coming from. I am quite introverted and I hate when people are telling me congrats because I hate being in the spot light. I usually just quietly say thank you and then scamper off lol.

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I’ve been unintentionally late to things more times than I can count. You’re just the host/ess who’s being polite to the me for not realizing the party started 45 minutes ago.

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Be gracious and say thank you.

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