So my GF went to the gynecologist yesterday and they told her she was infertile, there go my chances of having one more baby. I also don't want to leave her because of that I believe that would be a dick move of me. What should I do?

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Adopt. There are plenty of kids who need second chances in life.

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It isn't that easy. It took my brother and his wife years to adopt an infant.

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You’re not married yet. You have options. You have to determine if your love is enough to outweigh your desire for biological children and the possibility of resentment towards her years down the line, which would not be fair either. Only you can answer that.

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The most educated and wise response I have seen. Thank You!!!

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If she already has a child, what suddenly caused her to now be infertile??

I know there are some instances where someone would become infertile after previously carrying and birthing a child. But they’re rare, and it makes me wonder if the gf told OP that but it may not be an accurate representation of what her doctor said

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Is your question, “should I break up with her?” Because I think it’s clear that there are other options as others have pointed out (IVF, adoption, etc) Just looking for some clarification. If this is your question, and you only want to stay with her if she can literally deliver your child, then I think you already know the answer

How did the come to that conclusion?

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