The supremely depressing posts in this bowl really make me grateful for my marriage.

Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?

Fellow desi folks - how do you keep your h4 spouse occupied? We are going to be marrired in january and want to provide her as much support as possible. .

She said she wants to pursue MBA but supporting her tutuion fees is currently out of limits for me given im purchasing a family home in mumbai which is going to cost me 4.5cr.

How do i bring up this topic without sounding too negative that i cant support her tution fees but can cover all other expenses (living,transport,food,travel,education

Hi everyone, first timer here. Having some issues w. our 4 yo being pushed around and bullied at preschool. He’s really sad and upset. He’s also super shy & introvert. Any advise? Pep talk? Discuss with teacher?

Anyone in DFW want to do something this weekend? Just moved here and I have no friends here 😢

She doesn't know the real reason why I'm lukewarm about kids: I don't think she's matured enough. I'm trying to plan for retirement and a house, but all she wants is her next overseas vacation

How many married professionals with young families are just sticking it out “for the kids”? Marriage is very dead and has been for a while. Young kids 4 and 1. My wife and I don’t fight, but share 0 interests outside of the kids and can’t stand to be around each other. I’m so ready to leave… I just can’t bear the thought of doing it to my children even though another part of me feels like wife and I would both be better parents if our lives were separate. Anyone else done a similar analysis?

Has anyone else had fears of marrying the wrong person or making a mistake? Like you are mostly sure, but still get nervous?

How long did you date your SO before moving in with them?

Nearly killed me this morning leaving my fiancé at home after he was up all night with a stomach bug. Thankfully I’m local, but annoyed this proposal is keeping me away from helping him through this

Those who had their babies, are you guys making your whole family take tdap vaccine? Like parents, in laws, siblings? We haven't asked but what if they dont want to?

it’s been 3 years in this city and I really need to hang out with someone other than my boyfriend. But I’m terrible at “networking"

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Only for men:

How do you deal with a best friend breakup?

I know friendship breakups between men are not talked about openly, but I had to.

Best friend was a Male too

🐠- My parents have been trying to get B-1 visa appointment for few months to visit me to extend support during/after child birth. They originally were able to schedul for Oct but it was recently canceled by the counslate. The current earliest date is in March. Any suggestions on options to expedite appointment scheduling?

So we waited all that time to learn that Madison and Peter are just going to give it a shot against the wishes of Peters awful Mom?

Custody case last week.

On direct: Dad testifying about how his contact name in Mom's phone is baby daddy. (Pretending to cry): "it's derogatory, I know my child thinks I'm just a baby daddy."

During recess: Me to the GAL: will you dare me to sing the baby daddy song in court?
GAL: I'd pay to see that.

Me, on cross: Mr. L, isn't that an inside joke bt you and Ms. L. Doesn't it come from the song from the 90s, "who dat is, that's just my baby daddy, who dat is..." (singing the song in th

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

I had a break up and it was me who messed up. I blame myself all day and constantly have dreams of her. It’s been few months. I try to smile a lot or stay busy but randomly I cry out loud and burst into tears, I think I’m depressed. I also live alone don’t have a lot of friends and I’m 36. Can you please recommend a good therapist (I know you have to try multiple to find the right one)? And what else can I do to bring my self esteem up. Thank you

I work so much that I don’t have time to wash my hair more then once a week😑

Is TechM fire people ?

Linguistic question, should an associate say "my partner" when talking to a client about a partner? To me this comes off like implying your also a partner, but saying "our partner" sounds weird too...

Hello Fishes, is it common for wipro to extend the doj. Somone i came across his doj was changed from august to october.

Mumbai people should be paid extra. There is no way we can live close to office and also we have to commute very long distance in local if we want a okay type house in a good society. Our friends from other locations do not have this challenge so i think Deloitte should pay atleast 20% hardship allowance to Mumbai employees

I recently joined a company after being self employed. I’m on hubs’s health insurance. We have no kids. It’s United healthcare. The company offers United as health insurance. What’s the best way to compare plans? I have not been in this situation before so apologies in advance if this is a dumb question.

Currently working at CNA and have noticed that people that come into the company are making more than people that have been here for years. Is this common ? Also what is the average starting salary for an APD adjuster ?

I need to think of a game that will eventually get a $2 billion valuation. Any ideas?

What’s a fair salary increase after a year of inflation?

Hi Fishes,

Looking for advice please!!
Have three offers from Shell, BP and Airbus for IT service delivery role.

BP: 23 Lpa + 1L joining bonus with 1 year lock in ( location : pune)
Airbus: 26lpa + 5 L joining bonus with 3 year lock in( location : bangalore)
Shell: 26 lpa ( final offer being rolled out)location : bangalore

Please advice which company would have a good growth story and work life balance....

Airbus looks attractive but have heard some very harsh reviews on work life balance.

So if I don’t write about an excuse for my gpa or gmat or a general sob story in an optional essay, what do I write about? Do I just leave the essay blank?

Do we think KC and Jojo still hang out??

What date does your bonus hit your bank account? State firm and overall division.

Hi all—took the GMAT (yes another GMAT thread sorry) after doing the mprep course and got a 660... Quant 41 Verbal 41. Any advice for how to study to boost quant? And can verbal really get better?

Is it legal for green card holders to work on a second /side gig on Corp 2 Corp ?

Currently leaving my company to get my MBA. At the company I work for now I get a lot of exposure to the board. (VCs backed start up). What is the best way to utilize this relationship to potentially break into high finance after my MBA?

I’m a woman of color and my legal assistant is a white man…this feels…good?

Last week, I mentioned that I needed to take an appointment (my therapy appointment) this Wednesday at noon. I also mentioned that this is a medical appointment, and I don’t feel comfortable moving the appointment. I just received an email that I need to be available. How can I stick to my boundary?