This is a weird one… I need to professionally *slay* at husband’s firm holiday party. I interviewed with them a few years back for an MD role and they (very rudely) implied that I wasn’t senior enough, then offered me a role making almost $100k less than I was at the time. I’m now a managing partner leading my own firm’s office in town. What would you wear? I usually go feminine festive, but leaning more towards statement pants and a top with killer heels. Suggestions (and links) welcome!

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I don’t have advice but I love this post. Go in your pjs, go in stilettos whatever you wear you will slay

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Metallic jumpsuit, killer heels, understated makeup.

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Go and slay it girl! I am already imagining you making an entrance with a spot light. And stilletos, Lol.

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What about a flowy white suit? A respectful slay, peacefully powerful. For the shoes depends on your audience, some people don’t understand it as well as suit. I find Amal Clooney a good inspo for classy evening wear, good luuuuuck!

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I love this… I was thinking about a wide leg, tailored, winter white pant. I think it’s so chic and sophisticated (especially since it shows that you’re confident and not too clumsy to wear it 😂)

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I vote checking out Rent the Runway to at least get inspiration. You might find a real statement piece there.

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Congrats on your new success! You can thank them for allowing you a better opportunity.

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girl don’t forget to mention how far you’ve come… rejection is redirection! be your biggest cheerleader whenever someone asks about your background 👏👏👏

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Yes, I do try to keep a low profile at these events though. My husband has worked there for 7 years and is mid-level, but high performing/hipo and has gotten promoted a few times himself. In the scheme of consulting, I’ve been a partner for a while and am certainly more senior than he is (and he’s very secure with himself and our relationship, and very proud of me). The women he works with think I’m a total boss 😂 and joke about wanting to be mentored by me. I want to be supportive and let him shine at his firm events. I suppose that’s why I want to power dress for this instead of my usual cute holiday dress… let my outfit do some of the talking/project that change in stature, if you will.

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WildFang has some great inclusive and creative pieces. I don't know you, but I could see you slaying in the pinstripe wide leg pants and mini vest on this page:
https://www.wildfang.com/collections/suiting

M.M. La Fleur has a slay boss dress in every shape:
https://mmlafleur.com/collections/dresses

If you wanna back that slaps, I'd pair these pants with any hot pink top from Good American Bosswear:
https://www.goodamerican.com/products/good-classic-black001-2

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Jumpsuit, designer stilettos and bag! Get your hair and makeup done too. Armor up!

If you have a Nordstrom nearby, you can work with a personal shopper there and tell them ahead of time what you’re looking for and they’ll pull options for you. They often have a tailor on site so you can make whatever you get look made for you.

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Velvet suits in a rich color and great heels.

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Please refer to the Taylor swift photo of her velvet suit at the All Too Well movie premiere

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I’m into this. Because I’m also a person who feels more confident based on my look.
My immediate thought is a sleek, velvet (in dark color like dark green or black), tuxedo suit. Flared/bootcut leg that is to the floor with heels on - pet peeve when pants are too short.

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What’s your price point?

I don’t think it’s about impressing them for her!

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Yes!!! Do it. Start shopping now. What city are you in? Go to Bloomies, Nordstrom everywhere and find the FU outfit.

White sneakers. Quiet confidence is killer.

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