This is my second year in PA and first married. Does anyone have any tips how to make it easier on my spouse? I feel like WFH has made it worst b/c I seem “available” but really need to work all day.

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

This was hard for me to get the hang of and it took me sometime to figure out what my wife was exactly asking for, but I think I have it figured out. I can easily get so wrapped up at work that I completely forget what’s going on outside of my job and as a result the romance/magic/chemistry starts to gradually disappear.

I try to be consistent with maintaining the romance in our marriage almost everyday by just paying attention to small actions that I can take in order to do so. I always make sure that we have dinner together, take the dogs out for a walk in the evening, and spend a little more time together after that. My wife will come home around 530/6, so typically I’ll just stop working for 2-3 hours after that then sign back on and work for however long I can/need to. Outside of that, have a date night once a week or maybe a weekend afternoon where you plan something, don’t just order pizza on a Saturday night and watch a movie, that gets old real quick. It doesn’t have to be overly complex and it’s kinda hard because of the pandemic, but there are leisurely things to do. For example, we’ll go for a long bike ride to the beach or check out some restaurant with outdoor seating. Little romantic gestures throughout the week go a long way as well, like during the week pop buy the grocery store and pick up some flowers, leave notes etc.

likeupliftinghelpful

Fellow lady here, and a romantic like you. Don’t get your hopes up, TS 1. It is very difficult to find men like this, and on top of that have mutual chemistry and physical attraction, etc. I’ve become jaded over the years

Biggest advice I got was - the world doesn’t stop spinning just because it’s busy season.

like

I know a lot of people give their significant others a “busy season” gift just to show their grateful. But I get the whole looking “available” all day, feel like I’m in the same boat.

like

Nah- don’t get them a busy season gift- save the money to spend on the divorce

likefunny

This same scenario caused me to switch to industry. Better pay and better work life balance has made our marriage better

like

Add’l we don’t have kids and she has a 9-5

Hot take: having a spouse in public accounting is a challenge if the other one has a 9-5. Especially at the staff level. The firm expects you to be all-consumed by work at that level and certainly doesn’t allow you time for a spouse. Good luck.

I tell my husband to please just let me be until lunch time. I need to get (theoretically) half way done with my day and then he can distract me all he wants. Generally the freedom to do that makes him basically never pester me.

Also, for busy season specifically when it’s wake up, work, sleep I ask him what is a daily or maybe 3 times weekly task I can do around the house. He knows I don’t have the time to pull my weight so if I show that I’m willing to do something (sweep around the litter tray everyday or make sure there’s bottles of water stocked in the fridge) it generally makes it go smoother.

Though, when we first got together I had work visa issues so he was the breadwinner and I was the stay at home spouse. So he knows I used to run around after him and now it’s his turn. This is not a common situation for most relationships though.

Related Posts

Seeing as WFH has no end in sight for my company, it’s time to invest in an office chair. Is there such a thing as an aesthetically pleasing office chair? Looking at Laura Davidson, but unsure of quality and comfort. Anyone have one?

like

I am about to meet my bf's parents who r frm different cast- culture all together. I m Hindu Rajput n they are Marathi Brahims.Although his parents said they are fine with marriage but i can sense they are not actually happy. They are taking it ahead just for the sake of it.Does this culture difference matters a lot after marriage.??
In-laws not liking me will be a problem after marriage.? What should i really focus on?? Is getting married be good idea in such scenerio ?

like

Is WLB better at S& than MBB/Tier2 or worse?

I feel like it’s probably the latter because of Utilization/PwC culture, but want to validate.

like

Hi fishies! Considering an internal big 4 move from Western Europe to Dubai. Not sure about WLB and whether there’ll be enough growth and learning opportunities after reading some of the threads here. Anyone up for sharing their experience? Especially concerned about sexism / racism as a WOC…and whether moving back to Europe in a few years will be difficult because the ME experience won’t be considered valuable.

like

Four core facets to WFH success

Post Photo
like
like
likeuplifting

Does Infosys reimburse Internet bills for resources who are working from home??

Also does they provide any extra miney to setup home office, like for chairs & tables?

Need some advice bc my work and personal life intertwine. Too much sometimes. Father is my boss. Wife is adamant that when folks come over they take off their shoes. Tried to ask my family...cont

like

[query] Is it a good idea to say a firm No due to medical reasons to a new night shift project I'm hired in?Accenture

I recently got a night shift project (2 days ago) that requires me to work from 10:30pm till 7:30am

I'm not comfortable with these timings and I'm thinking to ask my manager to put me on Bench (Due to medical reasons that involve mental health)

Is it a nice idea to say a firm No to a new project I'm hardlocked into, due to night shifts?

like

I’m graduating with an MPH in Epidemiology in spring/summer 2023. I’m an international student and will have an OPT. Work as a GRA, great GPA, 5 years of experience in Oil&Gas compliance and internal controls before. Looking for a job in Austin or remote, preferably with a focus in MCH. I’d like to make the most money I can because I’m a single mom. Should I start with state employment to gain relevant experience, or can I try private companies right away? Any recommendations are welcome!

like

Hello all,

I am a recent college grad that has been struggling to transition & find a good entry QA role. Does anyone know a remote entry level Quality Assurance Analyst or QA Specialist roles hiring? I live in Washington, DC so I can be on site as well. TIA and open to any advice or referrals as well!!

like

What’s your company’s WFH policy? I’m at William Harris NYC office and we are in person but some people will occasionally wfh. Is this the norm? Is the hybrid model completely dead?

like

I have PCOS, so getting pregnant has not been straightforward. We are about 6 months into trying and I am on some drugs to help. My husband basically blames me for not being pregnant yet and routinely says I am a ‘mess’ for not understanding my cycle, even though I am going by what the doctors tell me. I haven’t been stressed by having PCOS, but his constant remarks are really getting to me

like

Moving to San Diego in the spring from the central coast. Any recs on places to live (late 30’s with a kid)? Want to be close to restaurants and things to do, but a little too old and tired for gas lamp!

Work from home is creating frustration for single's 😂😝

likefunny

Have any of you tried out the My Child Can Learn Curriculum with your kids? It used to be marketed as My Baby Can Read. If you did what did you all think of it? My English, Spanish, and French sets just came in the mail today and I’m excited to get started with it!

like

Anyone interviewed or work at BetterCloud? How’s the recruiting/interview process, culture, WLB, pay, etc? Thanks!

like

Seeking new position in Admissions/Business development in Behavioral Health/SUD. Either remote or SoCal.

likehelpful

More Posts

Are product opps really better than consulting?

like

Looking for remote flexibility. Are any companies remote-friendly? Even 2 or 3 days per week.

likehelpful

Wow had our first zoom call with the client today and 😍😍😍. Husband-me-up PE daddy 😍😍. Have you ever worked with a sexy af client?

likefunny

What is with landlords requiring a guarantor even when you make 40x the rent….. it’s incredibly classist (even more than the 40x rent rule). Not all us have rich parents, and even if I did - I’m 25 and financially independent…..

like

Got a offer from Deloitte india and not USI in Consulting division. Skill SAP Technical. How's the practice and what's the difference between India and usi practice. DeloitteDeloitte USIDeloitte India.

Your inputs will be really helpful.

like

Who’s down to go to a hawks game?!?!

like

I'm from a very conservative culture. I'm reluctant to have sex unless my SO and I already perceive each other as life partner (no need to be engaged or married). Would it be very hard for me to date here in the U.S.?

likefunny

Current at 110K TC in NYC, considering the cost of living increase for a 140k TC offer in Palo Alto, is this still a decent bump? Never lived there before, thanks!

like

I’m Applying for Deloitte’s SAP Analysts rolls in Tampa. Does anyone have more info on this job? I’m trying to make a switch into SAP coming from 3 years of PMO experience and 1 year of MM/SD/EMW user and functional skills.

like

What are the best paying pharmaceutical sales companies? I was thinking Johnson and Johnson, GSK, but not sure who else.

like
like

Offfered specialist master at deloitte

Base 205k
Joining bonus 40k
Bonus 23%
Yoe 15

Total tc close to 255k if split between two years


Is it good or can be negotiated further

like

Hey everyone! Any openings in Canada for an RSM or VP sales? I have 11 years of exp in tech and SaaS sales.

I’m not happy where I am right now.

Suggesting headhunters/ recruiters helps too.

like

Going to Scandinavia this summer! Late July for 7-10 days, no real plans yet except I’m coming from Iceland. Anyone have good itineraries? Trying to figure out what to do/how long to be there.

like

Hi Guyz,

I am planning for job change as power platform Developer. If anyone is having any openings in their organisation please refer me.

Skills - Power Apps, Power Automate, Power BI, SharePoint Online
Experience - 4+ years
Preferred location - pune or wfh
Accenture Infosys EY Capgemini Wipro PwC Deloitte TietoEVRY Nagarro KPMG

Today I drop mail to my project manager to release or change my project related to my primary skill which I Linux system admin.
My manager is agree to release me but my project manager told me atleast wait for quater while they will decide let you know if there is any suitable opening that is mutually beneficial.. 😂

can someone hcl employee pull me in any Linux project .
My main motive is learning Linux azure AWS am certified as well .

like

Does anyone knows companies that are hiring for entry level cybersecurity roles? I am currently a Software Engineer who works in API development and have experience in Java, Python and SQL. I am looking to enter the cybersecurity industry. I am also preparing for my SSCP certification and I have basic level cybersecurity knowledge mainly in cryptography and IAM.

like

Any advice for a Coca Cola lab analyst interview?

like

Hi IBMer, can you please confirm if IBM hires distance education.
I did my 12th from NIOS, rest all are regular courses. I am an experienced professional. IBM will consider me or not?IBM

like

Additional Posts in Accounting

Lifted from r/. Who is your archenemy at work? Manager, sales, marketing?

like

Barring making it to partner, what's the salary ceiling in big 4 in NYC?

like

What's the right age to get married? I think I am ready just don't have anyone to marry 🙄

like

Work Stations? How 'bout nap stations? 😴

like

Anyone know what comp and wlb are like at FAANG companies? Is the wlb worse than other industries?

like

I'm thinking about getting a dog. Good or bad idea while working in PA? How do you balance having a pet during busy season? I live alone.

like

Shoutout to all the newly promoted Partners, Managers and Seniors. Hard work pays off, if you are determined and willing to focus on your career goals.

like

Is it normal for a firm to invite you for an interview without explaining the structure? I was surprised with a 15mins case interview which I did not prepare for. The email said 1hour behavioural.

like

How much of PTO RSM employees gets? Also, what is the Paternity time policy?

like

Does anyone here use Avalara or Vertex? Interested in hearing any likes/dislikes and how the user experience is.

like

Who ultimately decides the compensation offered to a candidate when being hired? Recruiter only? Hiring manager? Trying to figure out what aspects of the offer are owned by each person involved in the recruiting process (salary, sign-on bonus, level, etc).

like

I just moved to another state. How can I find a recruiter? Any tip is appreciated. I have been applying but haven't heard back much.

like

Looking for a new office chair at home. Any suggestions?

Two key qualities: comfortable and adjustable

Price is very flexible. Much rather pay more for a nicer chair than get a deal.

Thanks!

like

Has anyone gone from public accounting to FBI? Curious about how the transition has been, looks interesting.

like

I have to travel to my client every week and the client’s office is attached to a very nice hotel that’s $250 per night. There’s a hotel right across the street that’s $150 per night.. it’s alright, but not as great. Should I be mindful about how much I’m spending or should I blow up the budget until someone says something?

likefunnysmart

Are the big4 having layoffs in any of the their service lines?

like

Should my snapshots be all partially next level and next level to get through my PIP successfully in three months? I don’t want to give up. Advice and tips please!

like

I'm quitting end of April. I don't have much work to do until then, and my seniors have requested I submit snapshot requests. Should I just go along with it or tell them I'm going to be leaving?

like

So clutch that I aged out of the draft like 2 months ago

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal