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Fishes, how were the appraisals in general at Deutsche Bank for roles in Mumbai location? Understand that they got concluded only recently so it will be interesting to know. While it may vary from function to function but we will atleast got to know a ballpark figure. Also if you could add your designations, will be great.
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Assuming they ended on good terms which says something about their emotional maturity. When is the last time they messaged each other?
That’s very bad
It’s risky. Yes, it could be a case of exceptional emotional maturity, but it could also be the case of a narcissistic or avoidant’s harem. If a partner of mine were to still be in contact with an ex, whether passively through mere presence in their contacts list, or actively through texting and social media engagement, I would double check on issues of potential narcissism, avoidance, or co-dependency. Narcissistic partners are known for keeping a harem of exes which they can try to hoover back at any time if the current relationship fails. Avoidants are also known to do the same, they tend to keep exes as a safer backup option that they can potentially rekindle with, especially if the current relationship fails and they are unable to secure new supply. If they’re not a narcissist or an avoidant, they may also be a codependent who still hopes to get back with their narcissistic/avoidant ex, especially if the door has been left a bit open by not removing the contact at the point of breakup. In either case, that would mean that the current relationship is more of a temporary placeholder than a permanent relationship. In short, I wouldn’t automatically view their lingering connection through rose colored glasses or brush it off as a characteristic of emotional maturity or modernity. There are often underlying reasons that may not be evident right now, but in due course tend to reveal themselves quite vividly.
I totally get why that would feel uncomfortable. Even if it’s been 6–7 months since their breakup, three years is a long time. It’s normal for there to still be some lingering attachment, or at least familiarity. That doesn’t always mean they want their ex back, but it can take time for emotional boundaries to reset.
If I were in your shoes, I’d check in with myself first. Am I feeling uneasy because of insecurity, or because something about their behavior doesn’t feel respectful to where we are now? Either way, it’s okay to talk about it. Communication doesn’t have to be accusatory. Just an honest conversation about what helps you feel safe and secure in the relationship.
Just get rid of social media altogether
They are your ex not your best friend. Block them.
After you two are over who do you think he will go to next?
It never bothered me unless I was given a reason to be suspicious, personally. I think a lot of people don't know how to have respectful boundaries, but I don't think it's impossible. You have to do whatever you think, though.