Very new family law practitioner. First family law proceeding today and judge ruled in favor of third party intervenor. Feeling so upset and defeated for my client who has worked so hard. Any tips for me? Also, opposing counsel is really loony and seems unstable/uses weird bullying antics. I am always very calm.

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Welcome to family law. Most opposing counsels are insane and bullies. Most have also been married and divorced multiple times.

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