[Warning: heavy topic for this bowl]. How to deal with an emotionally abusive mother in the context of my wedding? I generally minimize time I spend with her / the access she has to my life bc she’s a critical bully who takes pleasure in hurting & frustrating me. I have trouble feeling anything but on edge around her. But with wedding things, she is involved and will be part of the day. I want to feel good on the day and lead-up. Cutting off isn’t an option at this time. I’m already in therapy.

Advice or Book recommendations on how not to get bothered by others/ friends/ peers? What they think or what they do!
Been struggling lately

Any recos on great childcare in New York (ideally west village / Chelsea / Greenwich / soho)?

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

How is everyone taking time to indulge in Self Care now that most of us are either about to go back to work, or have started back up with students? I’m having mixed feelings of going back on my end and would love to hear how others are feeling too!

Can we all agree that gender reveal parties are an annoying thing to subject your friends to?

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

For those of you with immediate family members who are at high risk, how are you doing? I find myself being very anxious and stressed about my father getting sick.

Anyone ever have success with requesting AA to transfer a spouse’s separate reservation to your reservation so SO can reap elite status benefit (ie, early boarding/seat selection)?

Hi all! I was asked coordinate a local happy hour for my team. The issue I’m having is that I’m currently pregnant and am not sure if I’m comfortable to hang out with strangers. What’s the most professional way to say no without hurting feelings / burning bridges? Or should I suck it up and go?

My family cat that I grew up with got put down yesterday and I have sobbing in between meetings. None of my friends are pet people so they don’t get the sadness. Just saying it somewhere to feel better.

2 days ago i told the resp on the phone i had a divorce petition to mail him and needed his address. He said he would call me back with the address because he was driving, just moved to a new place, and didn't have it memorized. He never gave it to me but i found it anyway and mailed it certified. Today i found out that he cleared out their bank account. Can i do an emergency hearing to get that money back? He does not physically have the petition yet but i definitely told him it was coming.

How do i find out if I will be happier divorced or more unhappily staying married. 2 kids; 2 & 4 YO. They don’t hear the arguments after bed time and don’t understand the bruises yet but I know it’s just a matter of time. It would be so much harder not seeing my kids everyday than living with the pain, loneliness and lost friendships. But I’m tired. And so sad. Lost. So alone. Does anyone have something that turned it around? He changed? You changed so he did? Ayahuasca retreat maybe?

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

Silly question but, how did you make close friends when you first moved to Miami? Feeling like a fish out of water, from Texas.

In a serious relationship for the first time since starting with the firm. Advice on how to balance career and personal life? I promote to manager this fall and want to succeed in both realms

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

I was married for 3 years & she left 1 day bc she realized that she was no longer “happy”. A week later, I caught her in a parking lot w/ her coworker & finalized the divorce. In my mind she was perfect in every way except for the infidelity. After 8 months of therapy and on and off dating, I got into a new relationship but I became commitment phobic & see flaws when I compare my ex to my new gf. 1yr has passed now and I still feel like I’m settling and not mad in love. Wwyd? 2y since divorce.

Hi all! Currently in the process of a career pivot and had a question. My current company wants me to come back for a two week project in August. Is this too big of an ask on a new employer if I request unpaid leave for this time? I had asked them about delaying start date until this project is over but it was too far away, and I’ll start this month instead but haven’t yet. I don’t want to leave or start on a bad note so wondering if it’s even worth bringing up. Thanks!

Did you buy all of the textbooks for nursing school or did you skip a bunch?

Just raised my first snapshot.
We can't see the review?

Anyone else just sitting around waiting for the ax to drop? I'm a soon to be 2nd year corporate associate who has seen work completely dry up. My utilization held pretty steady around 50% immediately after shutdown, but August was below 15 billables with no appreciable work in the pipeline. Aside from letting people know I'm available and doing pro-bono/CLE, it's starting to feel like a serious "covidcation" leading to termination.

What is the difference between financial due diligence (FDD) and delivering deal value (DDV) at PwC?

For anyone who was able to make the move from FDD to IB, outside of Compensation, what have you enjoyed more about IB?

Moved into a new construction home and hinge side of the door on bottom corner leaks small amounts of water during rainfall. Any suggestions? Added corner seal, clear silicone, raised threshold

Is anyone looking to exit corporate life altogether? Trying to balance the emotional gut punch of taking a massive pay cut with the benefits of being able to live a life that is not dictated by the demands of my job.

Hi any reviews on Aptos retail?

Anyone else a bit annoyed with the announcers right now? I get you disagree with the decision to not start the race, but man there was so much rain out there I can’t blame race control. I think it’s Crofty, not 100% sure, but the comments like “that car should have a driver in it going around the circuit right about now” are a bit much for me. Anyone else feel the same or am I just overreacting?

What are the best affordable social media management/analytics tools available that small agencies/freelancers use? The analytics/insights side is more important to me than posting/scheduling/etc. Thx

So, is it worth to leave Deloitte for a startup? Given that current CTC is 6 and startup is offering 16 in hand?

What’s the best area or suburb to live in Charlotte?

What's with companies charging full fees for diminished benefits? I'm a bit annoyed about being charged in full for my Marriott card annual fee and Amazon Prime mebership

Hi all, in case you're looking for a referral at Gartner, please post in your queries here and someone from the current set of employees will reach out via DM. Let's connect, help and grow!

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

So, we have a wedding registry and my fiance and I would really like people to stick to gifting us what's on that registry. Yet, people keep asking what they should get us. The thought of dealing with a ton of crap we don't want or need is stressing me out. How can I politely tell people to only buy what's on the registry?

Thoughts on kindly asking your bridesmaids to please not give a gift? I am over the moon excited that my bridesmaids will be celebrating me and traveling for the wedding and bachelorette. I really do not want a gift from them at the wedding. Full disclosure, my fiancé and I have great paying jobs and my bridesmaids are grad students, artists, and teachers. How would you frame this? Even if they were millionaires I would not want a gift, but I don’t want it taken the wrong way.

My stepmom threw me a very elaborate bridal shower. My stepsister pitched in and also did a lot of work for it. Bridesmaids helped but didn’t do a ton. What, if anything should I do for my stepmom and stepsister as a showing of gratitude? I don’t want to spend a lot of $$ but definitely want to act quickly and thoughtfully.

Are you paying for bridesmaid hair and make-up? Was a little sticker shocked $200 per person before gratuity, just adds up quickly with that many people😬 Not requiring it but wanted to offer it if they want to be more glammed up, but now seeing online that’s it’s considered quite rude to not cover it for them? Maybe just cover one and they can do the other if they want? Don’t want to be rude if it’s expected but also don’t want to blow our budget… any perspective on the “norm” appreciated!

Budget friendly bridesmaid proposals if you’d still like to give a small token in addition to a card?

So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

Anyone do their own bridal makeup? Any advice or thoughts?

What gift did you get your spouse on your wedding day?

Curious to hear everyone's "expectations" versus "reality" for their wedding day?
There's such an expectation around one's wedding day but not much discussion around how it's different from it

How much are you spending on photography? (I’m looking at 2 photographers, 8 hours) I live in the Bay Area

Guest list stress 😖😖 how many did y’all invite vs how many came?!

What pre wedding beauty/wellness regimens are you doing leading up to your wedding?! I’ll be treating myself to monthly facials; orange theory 1-2 a week and will be doing a keto diet a few months before the big day 💞 wish me luck 😅

Putting together a wedding weekend itinerary and have been dealing with a frustrating level of questions from some random in-laws who are known for stirring the pot. Would it be rude to say “please contact x with any questions. Kindly do not direct questions to the bride unless there is an emergency”? What is a better way to say this?

I don't wear a lot of makeup - how far in advance from the ceremony should I be getting it done? Is having it all done 2 hrs before the ceremony too late or too early? I'm not getting pictures done until ceremony and after. Thanks!

Tux budget NYC?

How far out should I be booking my florist? Wedding is 10 months away, not sure what we’ll need quite yet!

We’re having an Indian wedding on a Sunday with ceremony in the morning, followed by lunch, and then cocktail hour + reception.

Given that the wedding starts early, we will have guests (~30) flying in the day before. What is the expectation in terms of arranging dinner for them? We’re trying to avoid having an additional event Saturday night - any idea on if these guests would need to have food arranged for them by us and what that could look like on a cost effective budget.