We're an African family (couple with 3 young kids) who have recently moved to the US. Trying to decide between living in Georgia and Texas. Which would you recommend for black people - considering racism, etc.?

Also, which other states (aside GA or TX) would you recommend for a young black family?

This is super weird but I feel like I can’t relate easily to people. Hear me out - I moved and lived in different continents, countries every 5 years or so until now… I feel like I’m an outlier and my life is super different from anyone else’s. I have some friends I’ve met at each stage of my life, but it’s been temporary. I feel like I’m always going in a different direction than others. It makes it difficult to have a stable life and close friends..

During the pandemic I dove into my self care (found a therapist, learned I was having seizures and got on meds for that). My journey has been difficult and not pretty to watch. Somewhere along the line I feel like my fiancé saw too much. I no longer feel like romantic parters and instead feel like we have a “caretaker/patient” type relationship. I don’t feel sexy or attractive anymore. I talked to him about this and he feels bad. But I feel guilty for bringing it up. Anyone else had this issue?

Had a baby recently with some health issues which has prompted me to reevaluate my big firm associate life and consider in house. The issue is, I’m thinking of leaving right after/during maternity leave and feel very guilty. Do you think I should explain myself or just say I found another opportunity? I don’t want to burn bridges but also don’t think they are entitled to know everything about me.

Hello kindergarten teachers I have a question for those in the New York area. I have a son going into kindergarten in a few days. My question is what knowledge is he expected to walk in knowing?

Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

I think living a frugal life and aiming to retire early makes a lot of sense.

Recently, some of my family members are diagnosed with a rare diseases. When you look at the statistics, these are so many of these ‘rare’ conditions and cumulatively they are not rare.

These family members conditions made me reevaluate how I want to spend my life. I am 35 this year and I can’t decide if I should take great vacations with my kids or keep living a frugal life. Do you have the same dilemma?

People that have small children - how do you deal with your child’s stress and separation anxiety when you go to work? My 4-year old goes berserk almost every day at some point relating to me having to work. The worst part is that I’ve been working from home bc of Covid and I’m literally just walking upstairs after giving hugs and kisses and saying see you soon 800 times. My spouse is a stay at home parent, but that doesn’t seem to matter to my son. A piece of me dies everyday because of this.

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

Any moms on here that absolutely love their company and feel 100% supported?

Women- if your husband says he fantizes about xyz actresses and models- how would you feel?

I’m having trouble transitioning from work to home. What do you guys do to get yourself in the “home” mind so you can be fully present for your kids? What are your transition routines?

My mom and dad are separating (bad terms) and not speaking, but my mom asks me about him everyday. She knows I don’t want to talk to him or about him, but continues to bring it up everyday.. I’ve resorted to silence or not responding because I always end up being the bad guy when I get annoyed or don’t want to discuss it. Am I wrong here?

Is anyone else completely annoyed how parents are pulling kids away during class to do chores or to help with siblings??

Important question! Any strategies for getting out of work zoom happy hours? Other than ignoring requests and not showing up, which has been my MO so far. But it’s getting a bit awkward.

My Dad and brother didn’t even text me happy birthday 😔

Has anyone been through a situation that you were in a terrible relationship ( stress,anger, fights, swears, physical abuse, ego clashes) and how did you resolve it? Some might have worked on and stayed in the relationship and some might have broken up. I am looking for answers from both sides. How did you stay/work on it and how did you break up and move on? Me and my partner have strong feelings for eachother and are almost inseparable despite going through so much.

Any dads out here? Wife is 20 weeks pregnant with our first and want to connect and know from fellow dads on how are they coping. How are you helping your partner? Feel I am not doing enough. Except for getting ready with the finances.

Pregnant moms, feel free to provide suggestions on what your partner is doing which you really appreciate. I got the foot massage part covered. 😉

I don’t feel connected to my parents at all. After spending 15 years here, I am unable to connect to their extreme right nationalist views and the extra emphasis on the connection to our roots.

Hi can anyone refer me in amdocs for job id:167165 for java developer?

Looking for salary range for X-ray techs with 15 years experience or more.

Hi Fishes

Can anyone please refer me for a product owner/manager role in their organisation? I work as a PO for a services company and hold 12 years experience. TIA

Partners - what was the most stressful year of your career? The year before you made partner? Your first year of partnership? The year(s) you or your partner gave birth?

Is there a policy preventing me from putting in my two weeks notice December 20th (Jan 3rd last day)? That would look like a week and a day of firm paid holiday and then 3days of PTO the second week.

Any insight into Adobe Solution Consultant role working in pre sales? How’s the comp like?

Hello Fishes, Any body who has joined HCL Technologies, recently can you please clarify few doubt of mine ... In the offer letter I have received Salary is not mentioned, it has come separately as a annexure document are you people having the same... Also the mail sent for Offer Letter I am not able to see separate link for Candidate portal to check the offer letter... Only able to see the same as mail attachement is it same for you all??

Could someone learn acting without attending formal classes?

Can anyone refer me for the post of Business Analyst in @Amazon India
YEO-1.5
CCTC-4.8+bonus

Hi All,
I have 6 years of experience in WPF with MVVM and SQL Server.
Can anyone please refer me if any opening for WPF developer.
thank you 😊

Does anyone know 4th year comp at JL/Ogletree NJ office? Thanks!

Hi Fishes,

Looking to shift my career from Software Engineering to UX Design. Currently a Fresher in UX but having 1 year experience in an Agile team as an Automation Engineer. If any openings in your company for Entry level UXD's please connect with me, would share my resume and portfolio over there.

Thanks.

Seriously don't know how to get a boyfriend as an IB analyst, most people who are in a relationship started dating since college. Really don't want to be single when I'm 30•••

Hey everyone,

I am currently looking for change and can join after 1 month. I am having almost 5 yrs experience in Uipath and 1 Automation any where. I started my creer with .Net and C#.
Domains : Oil, Gas & energy, Banking, Insurance and health care.

Please let me know, if there is any requirement.

Thanks

Anyone here from NYC? We should all plan a happy hour or meetup! DC and Atlanta blacks always doing something lol

Anyone doing Carnival in Notting Hill?

This diversity thing is almost a joke....seriously. A lady says her goal is to focus on promoting women and she is celebrated. What if a man said the same thing regarding men....? where is fairness?

How bad is racism in consulting?

Any one going to Ghana in a few weeks?

Any Afrocarribean events happening in the DMV?

Which cities have the largest foreign (Carribean, African, Afro-Latino) populations in the US?

Will anyone be in Ghana this December participating in Ghana’s “Year of Return” initiative?

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Relocating to work in NYC, and looking for a place to live with an excellent school system. Willing to commute up to 2hrs. Any recommendations (cities, counties, zip codes, etc.) will be much appreciated.

When do you plan to move back to settle In your home country? And if you don’t plan to, why not?

What r y’all doing for Naija independence ?? 🇳🇬

Drop your flags! 🇨🇩

How do you feel about Trump's travel 'ban' on African countries

What y’all eating for thanksgiving? Sometimes I wish I had a Southern Black family nearby so I could have traditional thanksgiving food after my 2nd round of jollof 😂

Who’s going to Trinidad carnival 2020?!?