Wife found out at 7 weeks she had a vanashing twin? Has anyone experienced this before? The OBGYN said the other baby was healthy and doing very well!

I am devastated. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years we were taking about getting married and having kids. Then I discovered he was also in another relationship - 2 years in.
He promised her all the same sweet stuff. I'm trying not to be too hard on myself but I'm not sure I can recover from this.

For anyone in this bowl. How crucial is it for you to have a formal dining room separated from the kitchen? My son and daughter-in-law are buying a house for their future family and I'm trying to convince them a formal dining room looks better and makes things less chaotic in the kitchen, especially with kids. Am I out of touch? Or is it still important?

If it’s true that you can gain full immunity after recovering from COVID (when science says so ofc), will the plan be to antibody test people and let them resume daily life if they have immunity?

Is it a wise decision to move to Amsterdam from Bangalore? I am a 34 years old Devops Engineer staying with my wife and a baby. We both are working here while in Amsterdam once I move, my wife will be eligible to apply for jobs(She is into Software testing)
CCTC : 37Lpa , Offered CTC - 72K Euro with 11 years of exp in DevOps. Please suggest.

Parents - do any of you truly regret having kids?

I went thru covid last year and lost smell and taste - since recovering the smell of things has changed and usually it is for the worse - meats now smell like dog or cat food and citrus fruits like onions … this has been for months now and no sign of getting better - anyone else experiencing something similar ?

Anyone else struggle with discipline?

I know what my goals are. I know that I need to work out and eat healthy to achieve them. But somehow I still choose to be a couch potato on my free time.


Any advice?

Anyone else have a need to exercise daily? A lot of people judge me in a negative way and in reality it is because my ADHD brain needs it. 1) the consistency for schedule 2) exercise can help tone down the symptoms before I sit down for the work day 3) it is the only thing I can control to make it look like I am not a mess (disorganization, interrupting) - basically trying to stay in the game at work based on perception of “having it together”. Just wondering if anyone faces the challenges.

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Might be off topic, but guys please, take care of your health. I've been rejected by all companies in the last 2 months.
I had my Walmart interview today and it went really well. And guess what? I got a rejection email.
I felt dizziness while working and fell down today.
I had to go to the doctor due to the anxiety and stress I was carrying since the last 2 months. It has affected my health.

It's important to push yourself to achieve your goals, but don't forget to "Live" in the process.

Anyone that has experience with the Crypsis Group willing to share an opinion on them?

🐠ies that once were unsure whether or not they wanted kids: what was the ultimate decision maker for you? Are you still happy with that decision now? I’m unsure and don’t know how I’ll ever be sure

Looking for help on which exercises I should focus on at the gym. I’m looking to increase my stamina in terms of reciprocal hip movements while in a horizontal position. I’m working on cardio, but is there anything else I should be doing?

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

I think I have ADHD. I’m middle-aged. This has never been a problem for me before, but I’ve taken several screening tests and I’m scoring really high. What do I do?

Has anyone ever used Accutane and then several years later you still have small, occasionally breakouts? Any suggestions?

I’m getting really discouraged by the process of finding a daycare. Currently 32w pregnant and it’s crazy to me that literally no daycare I’ve spoken to can speak to availabilities in the Spring. It’s nothing but waitlists. Should I have started looking sooner? Starting to get worried that my maternity leave will and and we will still have zero plan on how to get childcare.

Moving to Chicago on Thursday! How do I like...make friends

does anyone here have experience freelancing while taking care of a newborn? would love to hear your approach/perspective. my husband and I both work from home and his job is so lax, it’s practically part time. trying to formulate a plan for returning to freelance life after the kid is born.

For those women with children or who are currently pregnant, when did you tell the partner you work with/HR that you were pregnant?

What is the best biglaw firm in Austin, TX?

Anyone familiar with legal recruiting careers, specifically at Parker and Lynch? Thinking about making the switch. Any insight or advice is appreciated!

The deadline for a research I’ve been postponing for months is today. I know I’ll send a bad work. Please feel for me

What are the typical responsibilities of a controller at an agency? I’m moving to a smaller agency and curious as to if those roles typically exist at smaller companies.

How’s it going fellow animal crossing friends

Be careful of a growing subculture of politics with the new leadership team in place. This is a place where it is more important to get along than to get things done.

How many coachees do people generally have? I had four, which I thought was more than enough, but got six more assigned just now taking the total to ten! Seems like a ridiculous expectation. Is there anyone who's coaching more than 5? Am I the only one complaining about this?

Serching for Job .(any field but not in sales).
Expecting in IT sector
3yrs experience in optical cables.

Hi folks,
I have 9 year experience in .Net MVC with 10.3L package now I have offer of 18L but I'm not able to schedule interview as Hr is saying you are already with 100% we can offer you the same. What I can do in this case?

Anyone have Producer friends / contacts at Pandora? Looking for an in. 🙌🏻

What is the best-kept secret among realtors?

Which dating apps do you think are the best? I'm thinking Match and Bumble.

How is CIBC project in TCS? Are there any shifts?

Halloween costume ideas? This will be my (👩🏻🏳️‍⚧️) first Halloween presenting female (so apologies in advance if this is off topic for this group). Trying to stay away from sexualized costumes or anything too elaborate. All suggestions welcome!

What resources are y’all using for prep? Of course I’m familiar with Case in point, rocket blocks, fast math, and b-school case books, but wanted to see if there are other resources people are finding helpful

Any bcg first rounders heard back today? When was your interview?

Trying to decide between a natural cycle or a synthetic cycle for implantation. As I understand it the major difference is doing either vaginal progesterone suppositories for one or progesterone injections. How bad are the injections? Thoughts on either cycle would be appreciated.

I’m starting the IVF process and planning to do my first egg retrieval in early June. I’m hoping to do back-to-back retrievals due to my age and hoping to have at least a few healthy embryos before we try our first transfer. I have Anthem BCBS has anyone done this and has insurance/fertility benefits covered it? Thanks!

Wanting to know what IVF coverage other consulting companies have. EY, McKinsey, BCG.

We recently got the ok to schedule our orientation and delivery date for our IVF medications and all I have to say is ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF! My husband has dermatomyositis, and his doctor put off treatment so that we could do some collection and go through IVF. I felt like my dr was blowing off our timeline, but I persisted. I worked with CVS Caremark directly and got approval in 2 days (not the expected 3 weeks). Moral of the story: ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF!

Questions to make sure to ask at first egg freezing consult with RE? It’s my first time so I want to make sure I don’t miss anything!

Had a quick question about anyone’s experience with WIN fertility / Freedom Pharmacy and the medication benefit. We just got the call from Freedom and they said our first round of IVF drugs are $9,000

Hi! Have any here gone the natural cycle IVF route? What was your experience like? Did you have success in growing your family this way? Would you recommend it to others?

Hello everyone,

I’m new to the group and Im looking to start the IVF process. I have a few questions if you all can assit w/ info. & experience, where the best place to start?

Thanks

Any tips on how to improve lining thickness? My RE had me on Estrace for a week before starting Prometrium (vaginally) a few days ago, but my lining is only a little above 5mm. Looks likely that this FET cycle is going to get canceled (was potentially going to be this weekend) since the lining doesn’t seem to be thick enough. This will be the 3rd transfer cycle that’s getting canceled, it just really sucks...what’s worse is I didn’t see my doctor today, just the sono tech, (cont’d)

I’m on an estrogen patch and I feel like it’s making me really sad. Has this happened to anyone else?

Scared to start clomid next week. I’ve already been so emotional just about starting this process overall!

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good OB in NYC?

What is your perceived risk level for contracting COVID these days? Are you back to work? Masking? My clinic still requires testing in spite of vaccination status.

Just did my baseline testing and got results. My appointment to discuss the results with my RE is in mid January. Any guides / ways I can start to interpret them on my own before then?

We are trying to change plan. What you’ll think about Aetna EPO, heard it pays 100% for IVF? Currently on BCBS not much benefits if we would want to skip IUI and jump to IVF. Any suggestions here would be helpful. Thank you.

Travel and TTC combo haven’t worked. After 6 months, the only offer I got included 4 weeks paid and FLMA only after 1 year. So 1) go and risk laughable benefits or 2) stay but risk TTC. So shitty 😭

So, what clinic do you all go to?

I’ll start it off. I’ve been to 3:
1. RSC in San Ramon, CA
2. Spring in Oakland and SF, CA
3. SCRC in Santa Barbara, CA

I’ve also done outside monitoring at RMA in SF, CA. Multiple reasons for the many clinics if anyone is interested.

4th failed IUI today. Disappointed and depressed. How many before make the move to IVF?

My husband and I are just starting our TTC journey starting with Letrozole and timed intercourse. I’m planning my 30th birthday trip to Italy in June. Is it too risky to travel if pregnant during the first trimester (in case I do end up pregnant before June)?

I’ve never had marijuana. But the nurse gave me a Valium before my embryo transfer. I felt quite relaxed and good after taking Valium. Is it the same feeling as taking marijuana? Any sister who has had both can share? Thanks!