Have you ever reached out to someone again after ghosting them and things worked out? I know it’s sh*tty behavior so no need to lecture.

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The ghoster changed her mind and is considering reaching back out to the ghostee?

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OP- are you the original ghoster or were you ghosted by someone? If former, I would steer clear of a simple “hey” message. In addition to the hey, I would suggest acknowledging what you did, apologizing for the behavior, and asking if they’d be open to talking/ meeting up so you can correct the situation. If the person does decide to give you that chance, be sincere in your pursuit, and make extra efforts.

If it’s the later, meaning you got ghosted, I am really sorry that it happened to you. I would not suggest reaching back out. That ghosting behavior won’t change but may drag things out unnecessarily for you. You’re better off trying to let it go and moving on.

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How? If you are the ghoster and want a 2nd chance, make more of an effort then just hi. If you got ghosted, no don’t reach out to the person who ghosted you. 🤷🏽‍♀️

As I told my zombie ghoster: we could see each other again, but how would you ever have that trust knowing that I could just be pulling a long con to ghost you after we've been dating for 2 years.

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You sure there is no need for lecture?

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If you think there is a future with them...why not!

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If proper explanation is given. Why not?

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It couldn’t hurt to try. People give second chances all the time. Good Luck🍀

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Depends on how far into the relationship you were.. and what the reason was. My policy is that I'm always open to have a discussion but I won't jump back into things unless I actually feel better and like I can trust them again and it takes more time and effort to repair than just move on so it has to be really worthwhile to the offender. But that makes sense! Have to make sure they're actually invested and committed at that point, but in the long run, experiencing those repair events can strengthen a relationship.

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Kind of. My ghoster ran into me in person (well he saw me when I didn’t and came up to me). I was open to listening to what happened, why he didn’t reach out, etc. It’s good to be understanding and hear them out I think. No one is perfect. Keep in mind that no one owes anyone anything especially if it’s a short term dating situation. No need to always be upset… if you don’t like it, let them go. It’s likely about them and not you.

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No, if they respond again, they’ll just ghost again. There’s a reason they ghosted in the first place.

I like to keep them on their toes and keep them guessing

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