Anyone else struggle including your family in the process? They want me to buy near them, but I'm craving independence. Every time I look elsewhere, I hear about "family being everything."

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

As someone who wanted to move far away and stayed close to home for college and work to save money, I don’t regret it at all. My parents are getting older (and sicker) and I want to be around to help. Also, I’ve seen how many of my peers rely on their parents for childcare, thus saving them expensive daycare bills. However, if your family is toxic and/or only adds stress to your life, it’s a totally different story and understandable. Just some food for thought, but nothing is forever and you should live your life for yourself before trying to please others.

like

It’s hard. My wife and I are struggling with this right now. Our parents live ~4 hours away from each other, so we can’t live close to both obviously. Each set of course would love us to live close to them. We’ll end up doing something “in the middle”, partly due to cost of living, and partly so it is a doable day trip to either family. But we won’t be close enough for quick stop ins and potential future childcare (though I would say don’t count on that because I know plenty of people who’s parents say they’ll help once kids come around and then they don’t actually - hard to read that situation sometimes). I guess all that is to say, I empathize with you but don’t have a good answer. Don’t let family pressure you into anything, but sit down and think hard about what your priorities are in life and if you determine family is towards the top of lost, then let that influence your choice. If not, then don’t.

Oh also, don’t make it a one way street. Remind your parents that they can always move close to you, wherever you end up, if that is a desirable thing later in life. The responsibility to live close to your parents isn’t solely your responsibility

Related Posts

Does anyone have experience managing an out of state property yourself? Are there any tips/services you use?

like

Can anybody help me find a 2bhk appartment near technopark Trivandrum for rent around 10k

like

Please rip apart my investing plan. Am 24, already max out retirement and have 150k in cash I need to invest. Planning to invest a chunk each week for the next six months. See proposed portfolio in comments—>

likefunny

How do people afford to buy $1M houses in Chicago? Surely not everyone buying them is rich (which is somewhat of a subjective term). My wife and I are 30 and have a combined income of almost $300k and trying to buy something that expensive seems asinine yet people do it. Am I missing something?

likesmartupliftinghelpfulfunny

What does anyone know of real estate in Web3? I keep hearing about it but it feels so foreign that I wouldn't know where to begin.

like

Saving for a home. Should I save my money in a CD or savings account?

like

Is BRK-B a buy right now?

like

Curious of the retirement benefits at your firm...go!

Deloitte: 1.5% salary match paid out once a year, fully vested after 4 years. Defined benefit pension plan, fully vested after 3 years

like

I joined Tiger Analytics with CTC of 9lpa. When I check in greythr IT statement, it shows 7.14lpa.

In the CTC payslip, it shows 75k per month as my salary. But this month I got 61k.

I understand they deduct tax, but I feel it is too much. IDK where I'm losing the money. Can someone tell if this is normal. I'm a fresher so, IDK much about it.

Also, what can I do to pay less taxes? Any help on that?

like

Why is Deloitte’s 401k match do anemic?

like

Fav intl ETFs?

like

Parents- how much are you saving for your kids? Married mid 30s and family income is around 200k. We both max employer 401k. Have around 30k debt. Lcol and low mortgage. Would you pay off debt- or focus on kids savings? Oldest kid is 7 years out from college and will have some VA benefits.

like

Why is the MTA so awful!?!? And they are going to be raising the fares again!? For what!!? 🤬

The MTA should be our audit client. I’d bet you’d find so much wasted and pocketed money!

likefunny

I have a client who needs a 401k, or a solo retirement account w loan options. When I was at UBS/Ameriprise, it was no issue but now it seems tougher to find a firm that does solo 401k as a RIA's.

likehelpful

Can anyone share amex Bangalore location?

like

Not law quite law related but I could use some input: anyone have any luck negotiating lease pricing with a corporate landlord? I originally signed and got covid pricing and now they want to hit me with a 17% increase bc of inflation 🙃

like

Other than a Tesla, what make and model has the best acceleration per dollar?

like

Thoughts on Overstock OSTK since the holiday is around the corner at the current share price ~67?

like

If I were to invest $1000 today, would ADA be a good place to spend the money? Heard great things about it, but interested in knowing if this is the right time or if I’m late.

What are your favorite personal finance books? I just read Rich Habits and really liked it. I am also reading the Psychology of Money. Looking to read some more!

like

More Posts

Anyone else finding it really hard to care about super bowl commercials this year? They feel like a relic from another time to me.

likesmarthelpful

É possível ser gerente em uma MBB e trabalhar menos de 55h semanais? {em +- 80% das semanas, claro que sempre terão exceções)

Is there a corporate way to bring up to senior leaders that an IC is causing issues across multiple teams because they are demanding and also doesn’t collaborate well? The IC gives vague “direction” then says they are too busy to clarify. They also refuse to use our project management/ collaboration tools.

like

In my 40s, here in the larger NYC area for a couple weeks visiting family. Male, athletic. If anyone's interested in chatting (admittedly in a playful mood currently, so that's my current preference), drop me a DM.

likefunny

Hey
Is WFH permanent at SDC?

like

any telltale signs of layoffs in tiger?

like

Could you help on TCS UK Onsite salary for C3A. Do we get part of indian salary also. Whether onsite salary depends on grade..

like

Graphic Design Intern Needed! Los Angeles agency seeking a GD intern for a paid internship. Please send direct message.

like

Can anybody refer me for finance roles?

like

Why do you think ZS canceled the internship for the '23 batch? AFAIK they did not do this even during the pandemic. Are the full-time campus placement offers also in danger of being revoked?

likehelpful

Partners - what was the most stressful year of your career? The year before you made partner? Your first year of partnership? The year(s) you or your partner gave birth?

like

Lol a client just emailed saying they want to sign a $1.5bn deal (we are sell side) not at some point before or by, but rather ON CHRISTMAS DAY.

What the hell is wrong with people?

likefunny

Hi Fishes,
Any Idea about Pega Practice at Optum?
Please do reply as I have joining in 4 days ,So honest replies are welcome :)

I just cleared my AWS Cloud Practitioner exam and am curious whether I should pursue Solutions Architect Associate and/or Developer Associate certificate next. My plan is to get about 7 certificates in the areas that interest me, even though they are not needed for my role. Have you gotten both? Any recommendation to which to pursue first?

like

Hi! Would you be kind to spare some likes? I want to start putting this app to use! Thanks in advance:)

likeupliftingfunny

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

like

Anyone have insights into working at Oak St Health? Discussing a couple different roles with them and looking for some insights into culture/comp. Thanks fellow 🐠

like

Hot mess Monday at work but hey, at least we got this one 506/4

⬜️🟩⬜️⬜️⬜️
⬜️🟩⬜️⬜️⬜️
🟩🟩🟨⬜️⬜️
🟩🟩🟩🟩🟩

like

Additional Posts in First Time Home Buyer

www.pivotcitizenship.com A brighter future is aviating😃 Having a second passport is the best way to ensure a safe and flexible future for yourself and your family as well as securing a high paid job with low tax rate. Why be at the mercy of a single Government to control your destiny? As countries continue to close their borders to specific passport holders, dual citizenship is now necessary, and having two passports means always having more options. Visit our website today to get started.

Post Photo
like

Guys pls help to decide for my new home!
1) White cabinets with gold handles 2) White cabinets with black handles

Post Photo
like

Any recommendations for a good water softener/filtering system which keeps the overall salt level low post-softening ?

like

Would like some thoughts on a 2-br NYC condo my husband and I are considering. $250K HHI (no kids). No loans or debts, both have newish cars fully paid off.

Offer would be for $725K, with 10 percent down. 30yr mortgage @5%. We would need to include closing costs in the mortgage, to keep about $10k liquid. Monthly costs will be about $5k.

This unit is special, very rare (we’ve rented in the area for 10 yrs and know the local market well). Should we go for it?

like

I went from making $70k the last 7 years to now started a new job a month ago making $130k plus $10k bonus every year, and $60k in RSUs. I have $70k in my 401k and around $50k in savings. Want to get out of the Silicon Valley which has been home my whole life and buy in TX or AZ a ~$400k house. I have about $20k in student loans which my dad has offered to pay (wants to make up for never supporting me) but I’m waiting to see what Biden decides for student loans. Is this feasible? Credit is ~615

like

Any recommendations for buying agents in Massachusetts?

like

What is the most difficult part of buying a home for the first time?

likehelpful

What do you wish you knew before you began the home buying process for the first time? What would change if you could go back to the beginning of the process?

like

Hi all! I’m new! I started the year off planning to save for a home for myself, then rates skyrocketed. So we’re holding off. Fast forward to the final quarter of the year and we were presented with the idea of a residential assisted living facility. The problem there is we’d still need to acquire property in order to run one. The only difference is the RAL would be a business and is already registered as such. Does anyone have any experience here?

like

Looking to purchase my first home…yes at 47 years old…single family for me and my 4 daughters. Need a good mortgage with a low interest and a good program for teachers. In Northern California

like

My partner bought a new truck earlier this month. We’re hoping to joint-purchase our first home next spring. Is there a “best” time to get pre-approved for a mortgage? When should we start the home buying process?

So far we’ve kept our head in the realtor apps to see what the market is doing.

Rent just went up, pressure is on!

like

Any recommendation for best brokers / banks for jumbo mortgage rates? NY metro area. Was quoted ~5.6% last week from Guaranteed Rate, but not sure if they’re brokering or lending themselves. If the former, I’d think I could find better rate going direct to lender.

Buying our first home and from a friend, we are both not using realtor. How do you got about doing this, does some have a playbook I can use?

like

Any recommendations on a good water softener system (4 people)?

like

If I see one more article on how millennials are ruining the economy or housing market by not buying enough homes or selling enough homes I'm going to scream. We were saving for 3 years before Covid and had to use a solid chunk to take care of ourselves and our families during quarantine. Now that we're ready to save again inflation and COL are at an all-time high and we're headed into a recession. And somehow this is my fault for what...not being a boomer? Bffr.

likehelpful

Looking to buy my first house- Would it be a bit of a stretch to buy a house with a mortgage of 2.7k when I take in 3.4k bi weekly?

like

With interest rates between 6.5% and 7.5%, it is safe to say that buyers are slowing down in their search.

I am a real estate agent who is in the process of closing on her first home. We offered $15k under list and asked for closing costs to be paid for. Granted, this is in a very small rural town; however, just know... If you have been looking for a home for the last 2 years and have not had great luck, now is the time to take advantage of the changing market. You can refi when rates drop.

like

Anybody here a FTB in London, UK?
If so what kind of mortgage rates are you expecting?

Thinking about using my VA loan in a few years. Any advice?

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal