Cuz of childhood stuff I find it really hard to make and maintain friendships. I’m age 30 in a LTR which while amazing honestly doesn’t help cuz I don’t have to make the effort to not be lonely. I’m also extremely busy with my career and studies . Any advice ?

Help!! My bestfriend is doing two months abroad and was trying to fly into turkey when they told her she couldn't because her passport expired within three months.

She went to the US Embassay in Athens knowing she had a month left of traveling, and gave her an emergency passport and punched holes in her exsisting one. Now no country will let her in with her emergency passport.

Can her mom get her a passport in the US and ship it to her? Is there anyway around this?

Thank you!!

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

Single 🐠 from where do you get your emotional support? There is a constant void I feel and not family and friends support isn’t working out / not an option.

Struggling to contain my kiddos this year. I have a very rowdy group of boys who struggle to stay focused on literally anything!!! We are starting an RTI program and need advice on how to keep them busy and quite when I meet with individual students. HELP 🤣

Family member saw me working out hard and called me a "retard" for pushing myself being at max speed and "making faces". Seriously? When you push hard, it's supposed to be - hard. No?

My sister told me I gained a lot of face fat during quarantine and that really hurt my feelings. I’ve gained 20 pounds in quarantine but actively try to take care of myself, unlike her. I workout, eat healthy, drink water. She’s always naturally been skinny and gets to eat whatever she wants and literally never works out. I just feel shitty that she said that to me. Am I being too sensitive?

The sudden death of a friend has made me realize that my obsession with goals has caused me to miss out on so much of my life. How can I learn to refocus and make time for the people in my life?

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

Any 40+ women here interested to make new friends? 40+ man here.

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

How do you correct bad aspects in your character that you unconsciously got from your parents?

I don’t know if coming out is something I should do or not anymore. My girlfriend and I want to get married in the next couple of years but thats not something I want to keep secret. It hurts me that I feel like I have to do that, but I don’t want to risk losing my job. I know they can’t fire me for being in a wlw relationship but they don’t have to give a reason. I don’t want the backlash of the community either since the area I teach in is really rural. Just sad I guess.

Who’s thinking of a divorce/breakup as result of lockdown? Who is even more in love with their SO as a result of lockdown? Want to test the corona divorce rates theory out.

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

Hi fishes,
Want some feedback for Employees Assistant Program (EAP) by Capgemini which provides facilities to connect with Therapist.
Actually I am going through some tough times(going through a divorce), want to connect to EAP to discuss my mental health issues.
I had connected once and they say that the conversations are strictly confidential.
Just wanted to know do they really keeps stuff confidential or can they inform my Manager regarding the personal conversations.

Looking to move to San Antonio and we're looking at places in Alta Vista and El Dorado. Pros and cons? We have two kids under five, so looking for a nice family community with good schools.

Does ADHD have a big impact on your memory? It feels like if I don't have constant reminders set or leave notes for myself I can forget ANYTHING even if it's really important to me. I think it's making my partner feel like I don't remember the things they say or don't care to listen. What can I do?? Not on medication but if it helps with this I'd take it.

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Hi everyone, first timer here. Having some issues w. our 4 yo being pushed around and bullied at preschool. He’s really sad and upset. He’s also super shy & introvert. Any advise? Pep talk? Discuss with teacher?

after receiving the portal link to accept the offer letter, what is the deadline to I accept it?

I've been allocating 100% of my Roth IRA funds to Vanguards target retirement fund 20XX. Should I keep doing this or do I need to start getting into VTI/VOO/VTSAX as everyone in this bowl is so fond of?

I have a yearly income of 130k and will rent a 1Br/Studio in Manhattan from 2.4-3k by end of the year. I also have student loans of 28.5k which I intend to pay off in an year or so. Currently, putting in 4% for Roth per pay cycle and maximizing my HSA. I net a monthly income of close to 7k. I intend to save about 3k for the next 3 months in my Marcus Savings Acc and 1.5k from January (reducing it cos my rent doubles) How should I go about planning this and also have some emergency savings?

my s.o. and i have a total salary of 210k and we’re 28/25 respectively. her parents ordered a tesla y for 70k and paid off 45k so far. we live in chicago and they are in iowa so they figured it’ll be better use for us to have the car. we’ll pay off the current loan and pay them back the amount they paid throughout the next 8 years interest free. is this even a good deal for us or are we able to get too much car for our age?

I’m so grumpy about new campus hires. Sometimes I’m judgmental (your hobby is “working on your golf swing,” really?). Sometimes I’m just exhausted by the worried earnestness. Sometimes I’m amazed that they seem to have zero useful skills, yet they’ll be making 150k easily in the not too distant future.

I recently went from having an incredibly open and intimate long-term relationship with a person I was certain I was going to marry… to now getting asked “what’s your favorite color” on a first date. Godddd I hate dating sometimes

Please suggest, how to get job opportunities in country like Canai, Australia or UK. I didn't find much through naukri

Hi,
Can someone refer me at NielsenIQ for Data analytics positions?

Hey fishes, how is the project allotment done in coforge..
It's been a month since I have joined still no tasks allocated not even induction is it a common in coforge?

Hi,

I am having total 4 year of experience. CCTC is 8.6 lpa TechStack is Java,Springboot,Microservice with Azure cloud

I have offer of 19 LPA from Optum which includes 2.5lpa variable

Today after HR round with Morgan Stanley they have given me the amount as 2365000 base + 141900 EmployerPF + 354750 Variable + 4.75 lakh relocation.

Now, I am totally confused which one should I proceed as the amount is also beyond expectations from Morgan.

Please help me in choosing one out of both of these.

Does anyone have any ideas on how I can help my executive manage their inbox? I assume trashing spam emails and flagging important ones, but any other ideas in terms of folder management, etc?

Hi all,

Any Australian EAs on here? Or am I the only one so far 🥺

X

Guys, need one quick suggestion -

28th Jan(after 2 days) is my joining date in one of the organisation.. meanwhile I get a call from one of captive company for final managerial discussion scheduled for today itself.
I doubt they can release offer in just 2 days if all good, having said that tomorrow is holiday.
Ques- should I tell after 2 days I have to join one of organization. Or can I tell, still I am with current organisation and serving np, probably 60 days left and wait for their offer..

Hi fishes, I've been working as a BI dev for around 2 yrs now but I've recently decided to go into web development. Currently I'm studying for it, but almost all the job vacancies i see require quite some experience to apply. What should i do in that case? Any help is appreciated

Planning on telling my parents about my white boyfriend this weekend…. Any tips or words or motivational words please

Went back home to renew my visa. The interview was good, but been waiting for more than 5 biz days for my passport. Who should I contact this time? Should I be worry that it got lost?

Are any of your firms providing vaccine exemptions?

Any good yoga studios in Denver/Boulder for beginners?

Hi Fishes ,

having three offer confused to decide .
having 7.8 years of exp in informatica ,sql
CTC-15.15
IBM - 18.5 fixed
Capgemini -20 fixed
UBS- 21 fixed but location for capgemini and UBS is pune
I want to stay in gurgaon.
Please help me on this

Anyone in NYC this Thursday eve? Looking to go out and have a fun time. Tips/companions welcome :)

Any trans in this bowl from India ?

Can Grindr be used as a dating app?

Single 🐠 from where do you get your emotional support? There is a constant void I feel and not family and friends support isn’t working out / not an option.

Why are some people not into feet?

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

I have an interview with McKinsey on Monday, any tips/suggestions?

I feel like I’ve lost myself since joining McK. My whole world has become about work. I love my job but I’m not the same person I started and I feel I don’t connect with my friends and family the way I use to. I’m not sure if I’ve grown, or lost a part of myself. Is this growing up or do I need to make a career change?

Queer life in Hawaii? Anyone have any experiences living there?

Kinda bummed. I’ve been single for 6 years (I’m 31 now). I live in ptown and talk to guys in Boston on tinder. Was talking to a guy for about a week who is my type. I asked if he wanted to FaceTime tonight and he said sure but caveated that he isn’t into long distance (ptown to Boston) and that we would most likely stick to chatting. Idk what’s wrong with me. Everyone tells me I’m a catch but guys I’m attracted to are never into me 😭 just needed to vent

Matched with a guy on Tinder. Had a great first date. We are stilling chatting on WhatsApp. But he has disappeared from my tinder (presumably, he unmatched with me). Is it typical for ppl to unmatch on Tinder when they are still interested in you?

Curious what anyone thinks about cologne? Is it a turn on? I am not really into it.. but I just got a whiff of this dude at the gym and the cologne did something to me 🥰 It was really subtle. I tend to just like the way a man smells (not body odor but just natural scent) and don’t usually like it covered up, but wow this guy tonight 🥵 I might might buy some but i figured it would be gay to ask him “what are you wearing” because that prob isn’t something the bros at the gym do.

Has anyone ever been in a mostly platonic relationship? I don’t like to label myself much, but I don’t really like intimacy and don’t really like romance. Some people would say I’m asexual/aromantic, but unless that too is a spectrum, I don’t think I fit squarely into that group. As I get older, I’m realizing I’m feeling very lonely. It would be nice to find someone, but have it be platonic (any gender/sex). It’s weird, I know. It’s hard to articulate as well. Can anyone relate? 😭😭

I know I will get hated by saying this. Do you think gay pride events are portraying a bad image about our community to public? (Drugs, sexual, inappropriate clothes, and sometimes like strip clubs- some parts). I know it is right to present us but I just feel it is not the right way to show who we are. I wish the pride where everybody can connect in a more friendly way (outdoor game- team work, dance, drink something not too sexual.) there are some good parts of pride tho. Any opinions?

Blow me one last kiss 😘

Anyone Boston next week?

Any 🐠 attending the Pilgrimage Festival in Nashville this weekend?

Doctor rec’s? I was in DC before and I used to go to Whitman Walker, an LGBT focused primary care clinic, clean, efficient and friendly, and they understood the LGBT needs, like PrEP, very well, which is mainly what I need from my PCP. Is there such a thing in NYC?