Feeling behind in life. Third year SC at 35 almost 36 (in the enabling model so have to wait until a M position opens on my team to apply). No clue what I want to do as a career long term despite years of research and info interviews. No money to go back to school. Unmarried. No kids. No marketable skills. Grateful I'm employed but conscious I got not much else going for me. Womp.

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Behind in life compared to 'peers' or your thoughts of where you should be?

Also, it's literally impossible to have exactly 0 marketable skills unless you've done exactly nothing in the past 15 yrs.

I think a less dogmatic approach (research, some interest piqued, interview, land perfect thing) is needed sometimes. It just doesn't always work out that way.

Personally, I fell into something I've always been curious about during my time in the military (I went open contract in 08). Figuring out what I really want to do in a related space (international freight / trade compliance) took me time. I'm here paying my bills, that's it.

Regardless of all this: we are not our jobs and I think tuning into that can better serve where you drive things next.

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The curse of high achievers is that nothing is ever enough!!! I feel same way and I’m exhausted and need to sleep

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Are you referring to the unmarried part or no clue part?

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Can I ask more about the enabling model? Is this an internal group like clients and markets? How long does it tend to take for positions to open up?

I totally understand, in the same position and also just got laid off. I am feeling lost and scared of the unknown job market that awaits me. Not sure how this became my life after working so hard for so long.

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