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Thought the same as you. My child is 12-weeks. It’s a lot better now. But everyone was right. Four main things have helped me 1. Having a supportive partner 2. Friends and family provided food vis seamless or homemade for the first few weeks. 3. Hired a night nurse once a week. 4. Epsom salt baths and a massage ever once in a while.
Good luck. Watch out for those hormone drops.
I always liked the newborn stage a lot more than wiggly older stages. They mostly sleep and cuddle and try eating their fists at that stage. My advice would be to enjoy it while it lasts, as you only have a newborn for about 4 or 5 weeks, and then a baby for a long time, then a toddler, then a kid for years on end. But you’ll never, ever get the newborn stage back, it’s over in the blink of an eye (even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time) so prioritize yourself and healing your body and talking to other parents who have done it. And snuggling. Lots and lots of snuggling. Newborns crave skin-to-skin contact most of all, and it’s the secret to keeping them in a happy zone.
This x 1,000. The newborn stage is one of sudden adjustment but it can be so amazing if you let yourself enjoy it without pressure.
I have a toddler and a 7yr old now, and it is much, much harder to find bliss when they can talk back. 🤣🤣
I did not expect so many responses. Every single one of the comments are so helpful. Thank you so much. Appreciate it.
You got this! Go with the flow, be flexible. They grow so fast. Remember there’s a lot of joy and things always get better.
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All depends on the baby and how you function on no sleep. If you get a baby with bad acid reflux, that is haaard. Had to be held all the time. Had trouble falling asleep on back. Cried a lot. Mine also turned out to be a kid with a “spirited” temperament, too.
Second kid I knew what to do better and was much more of a normal baby.
From my experience, first time moms who think it’s easy have great support and likely have an easy baby.
Also same experience with reflux. Not sure about the spirit, but she’s on track to be walking early and we’re already having trouble keeping up. Eek!
I think it’s different for everyone. I found the newborn phase in many ways the easiest because newborns sleep all day.
There is so much comparing with these experiences and honestly they are often totally unique.
I had an amazing pregnancy as well and hated going to the office at the time because women at work would call me a liar all the time, to my face, for saying I felt great.
You stay excited and deal with it one day at a time in your own way!
Just relax and take it one hour at a time. Don’t expect to cram your days with activities or errands or anything. Have one or two things you want to do a day and that’s it. Do what feels right for you and baby, not what everyone else tells you is “right”. If you’re confident and relaxed, baby will pick up on that too. Give yourself space and time to enjoy it too because even if it is the hardest time, it’s so short.