Depression/Anxiety Talk

Has anyone else developed a massive paranoia about getting fired? I’m terrified that any mistake will get me fired. My manager is very emotional in their reactions so it’s traumatized me a bit

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I did, and then I actually got fired, so now I’m at a place where I’ve lived the trauma and anything that isn’t traumatic I interpret as a good thing

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This same thing happened to me, and I am still feeling the trauma. How did you get over it?

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If you knew how difficult it was to have someone fired you reallllllly wouldn’t be worried about this

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I think that’s part of it for me, actually. Consulting is the first real big grown up job (with benefits and such - bounced around various contract positions before reinventing myself in grad school) I’ve had. All my experience up to now has been with companies that could - and did - drop my like the ball PMO drops on certain projects

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Hey OP, EY1. I don’t think you will get fired for small items like this. This is way too small! I feel it too at times but that’s because I feel like I should speak the truth or call the hotline because my manager is no good and is causing a world of pain. Don’t worry like this please! Tell yourself it’s far fetched

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Generally if you fear this it means you might actually have cause. At least that was my experience. Idk. It might be time to face up to some bigger truth u’ve been avoiding.

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strongly disagree. Most new hires I know have had panic about this in the last year - are they all about to get fired? It’s a very stressful job with tough feedback. Don’t worry OP, it’s a super common fear to struggle with and doesn’t mean it’s actually your reality.

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Yes! And I’ve received no bad feedback. Still I have this paranoia that causes anxiety.

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It's not paranoia. You really can and might get fired. I did via "up or out" at my last firm and it sucked but was also a relief because that place was awful.

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Living in the modern world I wish that I had bought stock in Xanax. I can see why it’s so popular .

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It’s a somewhat common anxiety for many people that’s part of imposture syndrome. What you have to do is realize it’s a story you’re telling yourself about yourself. Then you need to rationally think about why you’re telling yourself the story. An example from my career was a few years ago I was an SM and had been on the bench for a few weeks. I’d been doing BD, sold some work, but nothing that made sense for me to be staffed on. So I began telling myself I was going to get fired over chargeability. The reason I was telling myself that story wasn’t about getting fired, but was about finding the right opportunity to make partner. That year I got fantastic rating and bonus, but I didn’t make partner at that firm. Both were good outcomes, to be honest.

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YES Had to call off sick today after taking PTO (I know, I know, but surprisingly legit with doc visit to boot) and I’ve been terrified all day Just one more issue

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