Has anyone used Toptal for job hunting? Their process seems time consuming so I want to know if it's worth it. Time is limited in my current season of life. Spouse and I both work and we have 2 littles at home. I'm miserable and have stagnated at my job and need a change.

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

So uhhh anyone need a house sitter the week before memorials day weekend? Wanted to visit the city and go to the office a few days but my friend who I usually crash with is out of town

Anyone who said no to a prospect because of personal reasons? Going through a rough patch and would really appreciate some advise on how to do it without burning (that many) bridges.

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

Can I buy 2 houses , one in a district with school ratings 4/10 and another house with school district 9/10? And then send kid to school which is 9/10 .

Currently don’t have kids. But would have them soon enough to send them to school after 5 years.

Is it legally allowed to have two residences in same area but different zip codes and choose better school for the kid ?

I’m experiencing insecure attachment style specific to feeling like my puppy loves my SO more than me because I work more and he gets more quality-chill time with her.

I guess I'll try my luck out... Isn't the ideal thing to have the passion and romance of teenagers, but with the maturity and experience of adults? Hopefully I could find someone here that has that mindset.

Opinions on career clerkships? Especially with a two year old and wanting another child eventually.

I broke up with my EX mainly because the relationship with my child and her was not the best, it sucks but I have to look out for my child, So far I am able to do the things I can do now. It is not the I am not Hoeing around but the simply fact that I can hang out with friends and go watch my son play baseball is a great feeling now. I feel at peace now, in somewhat of pain because of the breakup but I am at peace now.

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

The worst part of my breakup is the urge to obsess over his happiness with the woman he cheated on me with. Any tips?

How can I approach my boyfriend who has an alcohol problem to help him get healthier ?

Setting healthy boundaries with family is HARD. Specifically a family that suppresses emotions, gets defensive, won’t talk out conflict, tons of gaslighting.

It’s so hard to stay connected when I’m so misunderstood and disrespected constantly. It’s never huge, but a constant 3-4 out of 10 no matter the day. We never talk about anything.

I’m just so exhausted trying to make it work with them. I don’t have many friends (hey pandemic) and it’s so, so lonely.

I dint feel happy when my bf proposed me for marriage.. i am not able to understand why..he is very nice guy, we have been dating for almost 4 years but honestly, in these 4 years, i never had that butterflies feelings with him never ever. Its just that we are comfortable with each other as a person thats it and we started dating.
Whats wrong with me..i am also not sure if i want marry him..

Any advice for 25 yr old like me?

I miss being able to innocently and naively fall in love and trust that things will work out. After being so disappointed twice in a row i just feel like now i cannot trust guys anymore and what they say. :( once u learn something, you cannot unlearn

Any place to go few hours drive from Austin? Have a 3.5 yo so want to keep it enjoyable/relaxing for us at the same time keep the kiddo engaged and happy. We just need a good change of scene.

ZS fish, possible to come in and work 50-55 hours a week? Or should I expect 60+? Interested in firm & work but just can’t keep working from 9-10 every day anymore. Wondering if I should apply or just hang up the hat and go to industry

What's the new age scene like in Austin? Coming from Portland and I'm missing my fellow mystics.

Anyone try Brooklyn Biltong? Thoughts?

Which languages do you use at your job as a software engineer?

Hi,
Can anyone please explain the significance of band 6B in Kyndryl? What is the hierarchy of bands?

Hi Fishes

I got offer from kyndryl and planing to join soon in few days.
I'm having 2 questions

Do kyndryl offer wfh.
Like 60 percent wfh and 40 percent from office .

Also how is the hike give for band 8.

About to finish my first year. I’m a specialist. Only going to hit 65% of my hours (took a 4 week vacation cause of wedding/hm).

I never say no to work and i have fantastic reviews, and the head of my practice (with whom I work a lot for) has great things to say about me.

I’ve been fully utilized starting ~June, but first few months were slow. Am i fine?!

What does it mean if there’s a NEP at the firm who’s been there for a long time (20+ years), but never got promoted to EP? Never held leadership roles too. Does it usually mean EPs does not like the NEP enough to get promoted?

The NEP has a book of business, though no idea how much it brings in.

What to read or watch before first flight lesson to maximize what I get from it? Got one as a gift. 1hr desk, 1hr cesna

Hi Fishes, I am looking to switch. I have 6+ years of experience in Java, Spring boot, Microservices and AWS. Can you please suggest companies with a good work culture and wlb. I am currently working with Hitachi Vantara.

I’m beginning my first year Audit/Assurance - any tips? programs to take advantage of? - I would love to hear any mistakes that you wish you hadn’t made. Thanks everyone!

Recs for sushi grade tuna to buy pls? Thanks!

Is taking the bus to work as convenient as taking the tube? Thinking of getting a place that by bus has a lesser commute than train but worried about traffic, frequency, etc. of the bus. Basically 20 mins bus vs 27 mins tube? Thanks!

Is associate and junior the same? If not, what's the difference?

How is CGI work culture and Banglore office?

I am shocked at how many people are unwilling to wear a mask. Are people really that selfish?

Does anyone work in-house in social media at a crypto company? Considering an in house strategy+execution role at a crypto exchange and looking to hear experiences! thank you

Hoping for some guidance - I’m making the move from advertising to tech and finding it difficult to figure out appropriate salary ranges. I’m nervous about asking for too little or too much.

Are there any resources that you would recommend with the exception of Glassdoor?

What is being a contractor at Google like vs full time? And what does a freelance rate look like for a senior designer position?

Have offsites started happening again for you guys? Trying to avoid a July one because I feel it’s too soon for me but curious if you’ve heard of companies planning those already...

Can I get any referral for a java developer position, having more than 2 years of experience in microservices.

Any Apple referrals out there?

Fellow introverts...can I only advance in my career if I take on a leadership role? The thought of this terrifies me. My current boss hasn't exactly given me the confidence that would reassure me that I'm leadership material. He constantly questions my design choices, which I'm able to defend. It doesn't help that he always presents outdated ideas and throws UX out the window. I know that I know my stuff and keep up with best practices. I have 4+ years experience but am treated as entry level.

Any designers or ADs here make the jump from advertising/marketing to product? (and adjacently - from agency to in-house tech) Would love to hear about how you pivoted and any challenges/insights.

Any advice on virtual whiteboarding exercise interviews?

I’m an agency side creative looking to make the move to an in-house position in the tech world. Any tips? I’ve applied to a bunch of places but haven’t heard back.

Is Behance the best resource for a new online portfolio for someone in marketing?

Best/Most Efficient tools (research; analytics; editing)for Social Media Manager? Interviewing for a startup so I’ll most likely be starting from 0 and want to handle it the right way. Any suggestions help!

How common is it to get a signing bonus in tech. Does it depend on your level? If so, at what level?

any of you pick up freelance work on the side? how do you find it if not via LinkedIn?

If you could work at any other tech company other than your own (with your ideal role) where would you want to work?

Going into a second interview for a company called C3 by sbe. Anyone heard of it? Any experience? Tap in with me! Id love to hear any advice.

Thoughts on the "fake it til you make it" mentality in career growth? Regarding a Front End Developer role.

I passed the HR screen, did an interview with who would be my) supervisor and the team lead, and am now doing a coding test.

I am familiar enough with the language (React) and pushing updates to Git in order to complete the test, but I'm afraid when I do a panel with the team to review my design, I'll end up making a fool of myself.

I've never been so excited yet so nervous for a role.

What is a normal salary for Sr design Ops manager?

Those in the Bay Area, what’s your title & total comp breakdown between base salary & stocks? And is it expected to change if you move outside the bay? I can start ⤵️

Sooo, is all digital tech writing micromanaged to death with no editorial process or is it just me?

As first months go, this is terrible 😂