Help! I've been dating two men for the past several weeks (they both are aware of this) and I know I'm going to have to make a decision soon. The problem is they both satisfy everything I'm looking for in a man -- attentive, communicative, respectful, affectionate, intentional, etc. -- and I don't know what I'm going to do! For context, this is the first time that I've dated multiple people at once. I was always a date-one-person-at-a-time woman. How do I do this??

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Whoever lays down the better pipe, sis.

Alright but have you had a conversation with both about their views towards religion, marriage, kids, what city they want to settle down in, views on relocating, their relationship with their family…once you hit the hard topics, a winner might rise to the top.

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If ifs no sex I would say both are also dating other people. The reality is men bond during sex so it’s basically a friendship with both men. Which def is a better foundation for marriage. However someone is getting the pipe even though women bond emotionally. Make sure you’re not emotionally attached either. Good luck either way!

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Not hard at all. Just don’t pedestalize men

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Had a similar experience and I shared with my mom who knows me best. She chose my husband and I’m really happy.

Also you can wait until hard times come and see how they handle it. That’s the best predictor of future compatibility.

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Love this!! Congrats to you and your husband! 💗

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Have you met their friends? Having that additional data point should help differentiate the two guys

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Ooh. This is a good response. I have met a couple of friends of 1 but not the other.

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Brother husbands 🙃

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I'm not open to ENM but it crossed my mind. Lol

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Actuality having sex may even confuse you more as it builds a connection. One that you may not want.

I would not recommend this approach 🦋

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Yes, I'm not going there yet.

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How do they treat their friends/mother/siblings/strangers? How they treat you could be an act but how they treat people they’re not trying to woo is a better indicator of their character IMO.

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Yes because until you start sleeping with a person that’s what triggers and exposes other areas. Everything is perfect and clear since sex clouds judgement! You are def in the power position as long as sex isn’t happening. Since they both are on the same level who are you most sexually attracted to? It’s no sex but are you at least flirting? Make sure it’s not friend-zone vibes instead of friends first with sexual attraction. Who is the better kisser?

Send one this way! 😂

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