How do you deal with mediocre white men who are pushy know it alls? 🙄

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Avoid at all cost. Their constant need to mansplain just drains the soul out of me. Plus, the way my patience is set up, I will just get painted as the angry black woman if I engage. I know this is true because it has happened before.

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Some days it's empowering to go toe to toe with them, other days it's exhausting. Set yourself up to be able to not care (i.e., can walk away any time).

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I just pointedly ask questions when they slip up. Or say nothing if it’s not worth it. Most times I just don’t put myself in a situation to deal with them, if I don’t have to.

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That’s the worst. I guess it depends on the context but personally I like non reaction approach. I don’t even give them the satisfaction of thinking they affect me.

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