How do you manage not getting overly invested in the situations of your clients? I find I deal with emotional fatigue a lot. Does anyone else deal with this?

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Frankly. I have little respect for most of my clients.

My clients with true horrendous life changing injuries are usually the nicest people who bother me the least, complain the least, and respect that I know what I am doing and that actions take time. I get involved with them to an extent but they need less involvement than others. I feel good helping them and they reciprocate.

My clients with petty injuries who milk them for all it's worth and constantly talk about their "pain" are the worst. These clients take the majority of my time, complain the most about their nominal Injuries, are the greediest and the most unrealistic. Nothing to invest in and I respect them not at all.

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This. This. This.

Yes and you will burnout if you continue. Google “empathy fatigue” or “compassion fatigue”

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I think you become largely immune to your clients' injuries after a while. I'm not sure that's a good thing but, like doctors, PI lawyers learn to compartmentalize. For one thing, you need to be able to look at your client's case dispassionately in order to do a good job. You won't pick good cases or give your client good advice if you just look at how terrible your client's injury is. You have to look at the whole case. It's the rare client that I actually feel empathetic for at this point. I keep a pretty clear and objective separation between my clients and I.

As a former defense attorney for med mal and PI, I am dead inside. After time, I really had no emotions at all for the sob stories plaintiffs would tell. I agree with Associate 1. Every once in a while, I would get a plaintiff that had something pretty horrendous and I might feel a small amount of empathy or sadness. Everything for me was very logic-based and I became very cynical.

If you practice family law and are taking that stuff home with you, I can’t comment because I would and could never do that and I am well aware of it. If you do PI-related work, give it time. You will die inside too.

I take solace knowing I am doing the best I can for my clients. I feel privileged to be paid to do service. Of course, some clients are not good people, but most of mine have been. I’m happy to have improved their lives, and I leave it at that emotionally.

I am early in my PI career and have found myself getting too invested in my clients. Buy this is my personality. I'm sure it deteriorate over time but for now I am experiencing empathy fatigue as well.

I just try to focus on a solution and fix the issues. I don't have time to talk to them for hours about how they feel.

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