How do you overcome the office culture fear and actually use your PTO without feeling guilty or risking your reputation? That line item for generous PTO on my benefits sheet feels like a cruel joke at this point. Our office culture dictates that the hours I put in matter more than the quality of my work or my personal well-being, which makes the act of resting feel like professional sabotage. I can't shake the feeling that my career progression is on the line every time I try to schedule a week off.

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I haven't taken a "vacation" in almost three years. Even then, it was a few days off because I couldn't find childcare during a school closure (child was not yet at an independent age), and work ruined it. (I've since changed firms.) I'm currently at a conference for work, and I've elected to fly my husband and son down when it ends (tomorrow) and stay two extra nights to make this a "vacation." I will only be logging off for one work day.

Dont be me.

TAKE THE PTO.

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Part of the reason you feel guilty is that you let yourself feel guilty. There are some people that you'll encounter in your life who have mastered the art of not giving a crap, and those are the freest people. They take the PTO they've earned, they live their life, and they don't give time and energy to the people who would judge them.

I am exactly this person.

Transformation started in Covid when I got to actually spend quality time with my young kids and I haven’t looked back since.

I still work a lot, but I never feel guilty about taking off a Friday, leaving work at 3 on a nice day, spring break with my kids etc.

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