How is everyone staying motivated at work while going through fertility treatments? On days when I have appts or get my period, all I want to do is google and read forums about it. My utilization is tanking (not because I’m blowing off work, but because I need to find and take on new work) but can’t get the energy to). I’ve told my manager about what I’m going through and she is supportive, but feeling guilty when I hear about how busy everyone around me is and I just can’t find the motivation.

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I have reached the point where I’ve finished reading all forums and research and books and searched through the fertility bowl on fb. There is nothing left for me to do but work. I look at Zillow sometimes.. fantasize owning a big home filled with kids and then try to get motivated to work now, make more money now and enjoy it later when (if) my fertility treatments actually show some success.

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I thought work distracted me well from fertility treatment discomfort. I didn’t tell me team about it but enjoyed joking that I’d be a witch those two weeks due to meds. Separately, I’ve learned not to kill yourself for work. If you need a little time, just take it. Your utilization % during those two weeks may make a small difference but I doubt it’ll be enough to impact your tier

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I struggled with work so much that I had to take a 3 mo sabbatical because I was sure I was about to be put on PIP. Those 3 Mos gave me the time to focus on myself and really give myself the time to mourn my losses and heal from the emotional stress of these treatments. I didn't get pregnant during the sabbatical but I did get pregnant a couple months later. I think that time off helped.

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Interested in responses. Thank you for posting.

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Thanks for sharing. I’m in the initial stages and almost avoiding the forums. Feeling a bit numb actually. But trying to stay positive. 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Someone posted this same topic a while back and I think most of the responses were just agreement. Not a lot of ideas other than maybe work is helpful as a distraction (it’s not for me). I’m supposed to get PGT results today and I’ve literally replied to one email all day. While I have no ideas to increase productivity, I’ll just say give yourself a break and try not to add guilt over work to the loads of emotions we experience through treatment. This is without question your absolute number one priority and you shouldn’t feel guilty for making it so. I’m glad your manager is understanding. Think if there was a woman on your team going through this, would you hold it against them for being less than 100% productive?

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I would love to increase my productivity as well. I feel numb and I am hardly able to get any work done. Could the hormones also play a role here? While I want to be more productive, I don’t feel guilty. This is my number one priority and my company’s fertility benefits are a complete joke.

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