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This is your first test of putting your needs as parents ahead of your kid’s. That’s why it’s painful. All new parents have to go through this - or else you end up as the kind of parents where one partner is still co-sleeping with the 4 yo., and you haven’t had sex since your last birthday.
It will be painful but this is a parent behavior problem, not a kid behavior problem. Read “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child"
Put baby on crib, face down if the other way doesn’t work, close the door, and go watch a movie. Baby will cry a few hours but that doesn’t matter.
Mk1 has the right idea. There is a proven method described in that book. It works well. The core is understanding that it's a parent behavior, and success can be trained, though it's a process and not a quick solution. We would lay them down (back or side, not face down) and then let them cry 30 min before checking on them and letting them know it's ok, they can go to sleep, and then repeat for another 30. We did this until they fell asleep. After a while, they fall asleep in their own without issue. Don't lay them face down, and don't wait hours.
Seriously, WTF the does anyone co-sleep? There is a measurable increase in risk for SIDS and suffocation. I’ll lose this battle, but I’ll still never understand this. Same for putting kids front-facing in a car seat before you absolutely have. The science is very very clear on both
https://www.google.com/amp/s/thescientificparent.org/crib-notes-is-cosleeping-really-unsafe/amp/
Every kid is different, but no kidding, I’ve never felt more like a psychopath than sitting on the other side of my kids wall, listening to his lonely cries and not responding. It is the worst. Second only to the possibility of waking up to your child’s lifeless body underneath of you in your own bed. That thought kept me motivated to stick with the program. We did the tuck in every 30 minutes routine, worked for us
Agree with SM1. We did this at 4 months and after one night my son was sleeping 12 hours through the night in his crib. First night is not easy but it was much needed for us
Face down really?
Thanks all - I tried the CIO and it worked. First night was tough but it has been less than half hour crying since and he is sleeping through as well
Any tips for making him sleep in the crib for the day naps (currently we rock him to sleep and put him on a mattress on the floor)?
It’s been painful - he keeps crying but I have waited 30 minutes not few hours
We are on constant vigil and keep checking baby monitor to see if he is moving
He stands inside the crib and keeps crying looking at the door waiting for someone to pick him up. You are saying he will get tired, lie down and sleep?
Haven’t read that book, but most sleep training plans are very similar. Worked great for our first two kids. Got the next (probably last) coming in January
Yep. Keep going for a few more hours . Repeat couple of days . Come back and thank us who went through this.
When would it be too late to do that? 1 year? 2 year? 4 year old?
Never too late. As McK1 notes - it is parent behavior. You can always retrains yourselves and your child. The alternative is having kids in your bed every single night and no sex. Btdt - it ain’t good for your marriage!
Or just co-sleep for the next 3 years
Definitely don't do face down, that is very outdated.
For our first, we used the method of lying down next to the crib and gradually moving farther away each night.
I probably fell asleep too on the floor most times. Blackout curtains + white noise + sleep deprivation = super deep napping
We coslept with out boy till 18 months then moved him to his own room in his own bed without all this cry it out trauma.
We have not coslept a single night with our kids. We follow baby wise (or something like that - my wife is in charge of that) and our kids sleep in a bassinet in our room for the first few months and then they sleep in their crib in their room
Don’t co-sleep. Grin and bear it through the crying. Back to sleep! At least until they can rollover by themselves
I am worried since my baby has fallen off the bed a couple of times - so either we all move to a mattress or he goes to a crib
He has just been extra clingy and crying in last couple of days since his 9 month birthday but will try to give him the crib treatment tonight and let you know how it goes