I come from a poor immigrant family. Since I became an attorney, I’ve been paying bills, sending money every month and helped with the house down payment. Despite this, they complain that my sibling doesn’t give them money, but when I ask if they need more money, they say no. Lately, they keep buying clothes for my baby (their grandchild). They take my money to buy clothes I don’t like for my child. When I ask to stop they say they can afford it! But they can’t w/o the money I give them 🤦🏻‍♀️

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

As a black guy attracted to Indian women, what are my chances of marriage if the girls parents are conservative?

Anyone know how much a full time nanny in the Austin area would cost?

Is my relationship worth it? Met my SO of 3 years senior year of college. Hoped we would graduate and start our full time jobs together, but my SO is unfortunately still in school (switched majors, transferred schools, etc). Our relationship has taken a big hit, as I am moving forward with my life but he is still in school and can’t find a job. I am also starting to resent him and he is turning more insecure. I am only 23, is this worth it?

Any tips for traveling with a baby? Will be flying with a 4 month old in a few months. Any advice would be appreciated!

I spent an hour today sitting with one of my patients getting a chemo infusion. Lonely and weird time to not have his wife in there with him

Am I horrible wife if I don’t get my husband anything for his bday. I have no idea what to get it’s too stressful. He always gets me stuff.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

Why is it that a lot of couples I know living in big cities are in open relationship?

Read your childrens’ diaries every week. That way you know if you’re not giving them enough privacy.

Has anyone ever been to the Alo Restaurant? I have never been there myself but I was wondering if this would be a good setting to propose?

I gained weight during my last relationship (probably around 30 lbs, and I’m 5’9”). Before my relationship, I felt like I could get any guy. But I’ve been single for 2 years now and it’s been so hard to date. I’m not sure if maybe I’ve lost confidence, but I legitimately don’t know how to get a guy to be interested. Any pointers?

Folks,
Have been married for 15 years and have a kid of 11 years. My spouse is falsely accusing me of domestic abuse and trying to get separated. We have had incompatibility even before marriage on various issues but it was an arranged marriage, we tried to work it out and stay together. Her side is asking her to move on. She has taken my kids passport and kept it with her. What are the options I have to defend myself?

I'd like to have kids one day..

I don't think I could stand them any longer than that though.

Which company is good for new moms and WFH ?
Also which companies are having come back programs for new moms?

How is everybody doing with the lockdown? Dealing with the stress of an ongoing divorce and loneliness is driving me nuts

Anyone start a new relationship before business school started? How did it work out?

Looking for senior engineering opportunities in product based companies, Hyderabad location or fully remote. Experience 15+ years, C#/.Net/Azure stack. Have good DS, System design knowledge.

Serving notice, 3 weeks to go.

Got an offer from Mphasis as project lead systems in testing practice team, can anyone guide me how is project n what client they have. Not getting much info from HR

Hi Fishes, I am looking for a role in data analyst/Business analyst/product analyst with Hyderabad as location or WFH.
Experience: 2yrs as Senior Analyst at eClerx
Current CTC: 11LPA
expecting CTC: 14LPA+
If you have any vacancy in your company please let me know
Thanks

Can I lie and tell HR that I have an counter-offer of X amount to negotiate the offered amount? Ya uska bhi proof dena padta hai ab?

When you realize the greatest value add you can bring to the deal today is picking up everyone's lunch

Thinking about divorce. Wife had an affair 3 years ago that I haven’t been able to move past. Been married 11 years and have two kids though. Restarting individual and couples therapy before I pull the trigger. Anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I blow up the family if I can’t get beyond this?

Anybody interviewed for Sr Knowledge Analyst - BCG position recently? If you could provide me any inisights that would be great! Thanks

If already accepted the offer letter of TCS for one SKill and another opening came in TCS for another Skill. So can i apply for another role ? And If yes if I cracked another skill interview , Will they give hike on my current TCS offer ?

How realistic is it to land an AD position as a fresh grad (with a doctorates) and a handful of pharma & FDA interships? Context: I'll have over a year of (consistent) work experience at a large pharma company and I have prior leadership/mgt experience (< 10 yrs) in a gov't role prior to changing careers and pursuing a doctorates.

Also, whats the pay difference between Sr Manager and AD at a large pharma company? TIA!

European fish: is there someone willing to share experience on Insead MBA? Trying to leverage it to transit to IB / PE

Hey guys! What is the standard CTC for a non-qualified in Big 4 currently with 5 years of experience?

How is the WLB and travel requirements in EY-Parthenon India(Senior Associate in Strategy and Transactions)?

Got a offer for 16lpa fixed for Associate 2 at Bain with 3.5 YOE?
Any idea what's the range and should I negotiate?

I just gave notice. I’ll need to take some of my work products with me because I’m flying solo. What is the best way of leaving the firm with some of your work products besides taking photos of them? 🥲

Why do we put up with the dysfunctional BS from our peers and superiors? Are we well-compensated chumps?

Kind of a quick rant. I did a quick search through some firms websites because I am thinking of switching jobs. It is definitely clear most firms still do not embrace diversity. I know diverse applicants must be just as qualified! So what is keeping attorneys of color out?? It’s so discouraging.

Anyone in this bowl based in Central Florida that would like to connect?

Not legal-related but: thoughts on A Jazzman’s Blues? I loved it. Been a while since a movie has stayed on my mind long after it ended, like this one has. Shocking Tyler Perry wrote it. “Paper Airplanes” is a hauntingly beautiful song.

Did anyone from your past tell you you wouldnt make it as a lawyer? Did you ever rub it in their face later that you in fact did?? 😂

What is the starting Salary for entry level insurance defense attorney in NYC area?

Ketanji did not come to play! Came out of the gate ready to fight and turn these racist arguments on their heads. The way she was dropping 14th Amendment bombs on that man made me so happy. And this is only her first day. I just hope they protect her well.

how does anyone actually bill 8.5 hours a day?? Even on my most productive days I can only hit 6, 6.5.

Does anyone in this group have ADHD? Are you finding that working in a law firm setting and billing hours is just not something they can do or is it possible with the proper medication and therapy?

I don’t cut my hours, I consistently reach 7 hours a day, but it’s not enough to meet my firm’s minimum requirement. I’m usually working 9 hours/day.

Does anyone have any side hustles apart from their day-to-day? If so, what are some suggestions that work well while practicing law?

Hey all, I’m starting a new job soon (in 2 weeks to be exact), but I haven’t been contacted by the firm. Should I be concerned?

With all that is going on, has anyone seen any positive changes in their organization?

My work quality is slipping due to brain fog and mental health issues and I don’t know how to address it with my firm or who to go to. I was considered one of the best associates in our practice group, but now it can take me 3-4x the time to write an average brief. I can’t seem to think and organize my thoughts any more. This is incredibly scary bc obvi, that’s what this job is all about. I’m in IP litigation at a V50 firm and a mom. Do I raise it with partners and how?

Might be a silly question but I will throw it out there. Anyone have any tips on best practices to preserve a silk press overnight? Currently have silk pillowcases but wrapping always ends up a fail.

How do I professionally decline a second interview? I know for sure I don’t want to work at the firm.

Anyone feel like your job sees you as "one of the good ones?" It hasn't explicitly been said, but I'm one of the only Black attorneys at the firm and I think my white colleagues and partners see me as an example of how Black folks "should be" cause I mind my business. Basically I feel like a token, and I don't know how to shift that idea while staying professional.

I'm a younger plaintiff's side attorney (31). Does anyone else feel like white attorneys give you a particularly harder time? Like unreasonably denying clear facts, or trying to fish for a way to sanction you? Usually it's solo defense attorneys that get extreme with it, but I've seen some questionable stuff from BigLaw too. Hopefully I'm not the only one.

Thinking of pivoting from insurance defense to something more meaningful and (dare I say it) with more work life balance. Currently in my 7th year of practice and am just tired of ID. Anyone make the transition? Any advice?

Have you ever been told off by an older attorney of color? We have one Black partner at our firm and in conversation with him this morning he told me I should work on sounding and looking "more professional" and not let my "tone" or "bad attitude" get in the way. I don't think I've ever had a bad attitude at work, and whatever "tone" I'm speaking in it's my normal one. As a Black woman I just feel super weird about it and kind of sad.