How can I help a parent with depression/anxiety get help while not making them feel worse?

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Be there, listen, don’t judge, don’t tell them the obvious (they already know), don’t treat them as though they’re different, smile around them, show them how much you care, call them just to hear their voice and let them honor that, hug them even if their not the type that usually hugs (or you’re not), let know things will get better, and that you’ll be there for them like they were there for you.
How do I know these things? I AM a parent of grown children and I have severe depression.

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Also don’t let their depression ruin ur life. How do I know? I tried everything to make them happy but they had gone too far and now I am in depression

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