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Our little one went through a flapping arms period but hasn’t shown any of the other signs of autism. I think they just have to learn how their little bodies work.
As long as he is mostly hitting his milestones on time, you have to let go of things you can’t control.
That’s perfectly normal. The anxiety will pass. Just keep being the good dad you are
I had the same feeling. It’s kind of normal but usually decreases over time.
Find a pediatrician that you trust and limit how much of your own research you do. Our pediatrician says for some things “that’s for me to worry about so you can focus on being parents.” (It’s not as condescending as it sounds)
Most of the autism indicators are things normal kids will do too (e.g., walking on tip toes). It’s more about at what age they’re doing it, how often they’re doing it, what other signs are the showing - even then it’s not super accurate diagnostically.
This is critical. A good relationship with your pediatrician will be essential for effective care and peace of mind.
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10 months is a stage where you don’t have many development milestones to hold onto. So they all feel so damn important. As they get older you will just see so much growth that it will mellow you out some.
But sounds like maybe anxiety is something you’ve dealt with in the past? Just guessing cuz I don’t know many people who went from really mellow to super anxious over night with a kid. Point is, now might also just be the time to work on yourself some too. Not just for this anxious thinking but for long term tools.
P1 does (somewhat) have a point. It does help to hear perspective from veteran parents bc of that ramped up new parent anxiousness. But yeah anxiety for new parents is normal and healthy to a degree. Shows you care. Too many parents wish they could’ve took steps earlier bc with autism, early intervention is a game changer. Id say look into EI programs in your area and what benefits your state offers. We paid a lot for a while (4-5k a month for 16 months and then we finally got free service after our deductible kicked in the following year with our insurance finally accepting it). But you might be lucky to find something sponsored by the state.
My anxiety went into overdrive when I had kids. I love them so much and I want to keep them safe from all of the bad things. It faded over time- especially once we got to an age where it was easier to tell if they were hitting their developmental milestones, but I have to actively tamp down my anxiety about letting them do stuff unsupervised. Mine are middle schoolers now so they want to do things on their own (ride bikes, go to the mall, go to the pool, etc.) and I know they need to practice being independent in a (relatively) safe environment but all I can think about is danger. It is the worst.
From someone who’s been through this rodeo and still going through it, I’d say it’s less about standalone quirks and moreso about the combination of them plus the lack of hitting milestones. Others above me touched on solid points too but PM me for any questions or a chat. Love to help.