I have a coworker who’s been here for over 20 years and knows the ins and outs of everything, but they are super dismissive of new ideas, they act offended anytime I suggest something different. It's immediately “that’s not how we do things here.” I've pushed a little and it almost ended with them having a meltdown. How do I handle this situation, should I just back down indefinitely?

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The co-worker can't necessarily approve of changes you're suggesting. The outburst may be because he/she has tried to institute change and gotten no's all over the place. The better person to persuade would be the supervisor.

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My office had one of these. We just worked around them when necessary.

What has your office tried already?
-https://professional.dce.harvard.edu/blog/preventing-and-managing-team-conflict/#:~:text=Keep%20communication%20open%20and%20clear,procrastinate%20but%20act%20on%20it.
-https://smallbusiness.chron.com/manager-strategies-resolving-intergroup-conflicts-75162.html
-https://iipmi.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Workplace-Politics.pdf?srsltid=AfmBOoqOQU5OZMPyJFsKzzFLyEOz-P0lcYBDb7hDhfKQ2Cn54o_ZOMQs

The military has many of these individuals - most in the 15-20 year range (waiting out until retirement).

Respect their contributions + work around as needed.

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