I have a toxic coworker who runs to other coworkers and talks poorly about them. Actually, they all talk about each other but since I don’t engage in it I tend to be the main topic of their conversations. These employees are somehow still getting promoted and the top instigator in this is favored because of his/her time with the company. How do y’all deal with this drama and not let it get to you?

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I’m going through the same thing. The gossip hound even has the director’s ear.
Today the director pulled me aside to tell me that I was bringing a bad vibe. So I opened up and let it all out. I wasn’t fired yet, but now know that I have a target in my back.
I have a work diary, and have to document everything now.

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