I have to admit that I am feeling a little guilty. The child I have struggled to help this year, has been put on half days and will not be in my class because she has to get the core subjects in during her time on campus. I tried everything: rewards, consequences, bragging on her when she made good choices, sending her from the room when she was creating chaos..I feel bad for her, but I am also hugely relieved after the way she makes some of the kids feel? Am I being horrible to feel relief?

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Let's put this in a little context. She didn't go to half days because of your class or your inability to connect. There a bigger context here and she was not succeeding. Perhaps this modified schedule will give her the breathing room she needs to hold it together. Being relieved that she is not disrupting your class any more is perfectly normal! But also, maybe you can feel some hope for her that this intervention will bring her some relief as well. And if you see her in the hall, imagine how powerful it would be for her if you were friendly and cheerful to her, hoping for her success rather than holding the previous failure against her.

You didn't fail her. The structure was a mismatch for whatever needs she is currently struggling with. Fingers crossed that the new one works out better.

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Thank you for you comments. This student caused another student in my room to have a panic attack. I just wish I could help all my students.

I feel relief for you just reading this.

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Thank you. I hope she can get the help she needs

Those feelings are normal and even to be expected. Don't feel guilty about them. You gave it your dead-level best. Try to focus on your efforts. You can be proud of trying to do the right thing by her.

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She comes from a family that has had many struggles, and all of the six children struggle and have no social skills at all

No. I completely understand. I had a similar situation at one point and it's mentally exhausting.

Right, it makes you feel so discouraged.

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