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My wife got 4 months through her employer. We tried co-watching our first during the day since we were both WFH but even at 5 months old it started to become untenable and cause a lot of stress in our relationship. Daycare can be expensive but in my opinion it’s worth every penny. Depending on where you live, it may be the equivalent of another rent/mortgage payment.
As far as other expenses go, at some point you will want to buy clothes and toys… my advice is to go to second hand stores for these. Facebook marketplace is also really good for finding deals on lots of baby goods.
Yes especially when you try to coordinate around meetings during the day, including “surprise” meetings that just pop up. Would not recommend.
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Great idea. I’m Canadian so we get a year but decided to go back at 8 months as I felt both my baby and I were ready. If you can afford it 6 months is great.
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I am doing something similar with my second baby (4 weeks before the birth and 5 months after). With my first I went back after 16 weeks and it felt so fast. I am blessed to be able to do that because most people are forced back to work MUCH sooner in the states. I think the majority of the decision has to do with 1) what you can afford and 2) what your wife wants. Is she someone who needs the adult interaction - then maybe it’s better for her to go back sooner. But if she wants more time which is how it sounds, if you can afford it, do it! Carry, birthing, and being the mother to a newborn really pushes you to your limits. I would take her lead on this. One thing I did to extend this round, is that I stock piled my PTO so I could combine it with FMLA and get an extra 6 weeks at the end of everything (took two years to build up). I will also say, having those four weeks before the birth are a god send. Your body is just done at that point and it gives you time to prep. Best of luck!
I took a new better paying job in anticipation of the delivery of our first. My wife wants to be a stay at home mom for at least a year and I’m fine with it. From my calculations, my new salary should be able to cover all expenses and a little savings so I’ll probably have a second part time gig to have enough for savings. My mom was a stay at home woman and my dad worked all the time except for Sundays. We benefited from it and I want the same for my kids. If my income increases over the years as I’m hoping, we want to have 2 more kids and she can basically take a 6 year to infinity break from work and take care of the house stuff while I work. This is something we’ve discussed and established as our plan A. As things change in our lives, we’re flexible with making the changes that will benefit our family. She also has a very supportive and present family that is willing to help us. Just discuss your situation with your spouse and come up with multiple plans should in case plan A doesn’t work.