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Maybe they are just good partners? Reliable, devoted, kind, stable men?
No way it’s that! It’s a secret conspiracy!
I’m a tall, thin pretty blonde woman and my husband is also tall and quite cute, but he’s not the hottest guy I’ve ever been with.
However, he is an exceptional partner. He puts in effort, is caring, committed, interesting to talk to, and so much more.
When I was dating around- I was looking for someone to be my future husband and father of my kids.
It’s not a big secret. You should probably just reevaluate how you treat women if you’re feeling salty about this
I look around at all these incredible single moms in my area and I honestly don't get how they're being overlooked. As a man, I’ll tell you: if polygyny were legal, I’d be the most motivated guy on the block trying to marry them all! There’s something so attractive about a woman who’s already a mother—the 'biological clock' pressure is gone, the maturity is there, and you can just focus on the romance and building a great life. It really is the perfect stage of life.
Rising Star
Hot guys are too cumbersome to deal with. They lack discipline and require constant ego feeding.
I'm an attractive guy and yeah, this is probably true. However, I would say this would be true of most attractive women, arguably much more so.
Women stay with men who treat them right. If you feel like these men have it better than you, maybe you should evaluate you treat the women you date
I'm gonna have to say this comment is not entirely true. I have personally known women who have stayed with men who are and were absolutely horrible and abusive to them, meanwhile I was left baffled. I was with an overly attractive woman who treated me pretty bad and I told her to kick rocks in the end. I got myself a 5 foot red headed hippie girl and she's been with me ever since. She can be scary sometimes but she's only 5 foot tall so it's kind of exhilarating!🤣🤣
I wasn’t initially super physically attracted to my current partner (but enough to keep going). Attraction grew over time based on his character and actions. It’s not just about physical looks, which will fade over time anyway. Sorry but, is this so hard to grasp?!
Same, except that I don't think the physical looks fade over time necessarily. My partner looks better and better as we age together (I legit think he's better looking now than in his 20's). 20 years in and if it's a good match and you take care of yourself and eachother, it's possible to think they're better and better looking, silver hairs coming in and all
I always wanted a man who went out of his way to show me he loved me. I would say it out loud and write it down. Guys who started acting wishy washy would immediately get thrown to the curb. Finally found my king. Getting married soon♥️
Do you aim to treat him the same way?
You want that type of person, you need to be that type of person yourself.
When you say "plain guys" are you taking into account how many household chores they do, how many times they take responsibility for their own actions and never blame their mate for their problems, how many birthdays they remember, how many small, thoughtful gifts they give for no reason? I think you are calling princes "plain guys" because you don't know them.
OK this is pure gold here, guys. Take notes!
Read the Bible. Be a real man. That does not mean be brutal. It means be both wise, strong and brave as well as caring, loyal, and loving.
If you read it properly it is not treating women as secondary. You have to look into the original wording and context.
Not exactly sure where I heard this, but men tend to treat their partner better (go the extra mile/etc) if they perceive their partner to be hotter. Women tend to care more about their treatment in a relationship than looks, so this type of relationship often works. Not 100% but have also seen it in person and online.
@2028 Air Force Officer - you just need to be better... ugly ugly is such a red pill statement.
Not a woman, so I don't have particular insight, but following because I'm so interested.
But I appreciate what a few women here have said: it's not ALL about looks. Who you are as a person and how you treat your partner matters a lot!
Personality, babes.
I care 10x more about how someone treats me than their looks - physical attraction can grow but finding someone who matches energy and shares your values is harder to find
Also firm believer in the “girlfriend glow up” (basically like having a woman in their life makes them more attractive over time). I was not initially super attracted to my last serious bf, but it grew over time with emotional and eventually physical intimacy. I encouraged him to grow out hair because I thought it would look better and it was during Covid so there was nothing better to do. He went from having a like a short cut all around to longer hair with short side that he could style. It dramatically changed the way he looked and he said listening to me was the best decision he’s ever made 🤣 we have since broke up but he has kept the hair
But how they treat you means that they "are just a friend" unless you also find them physically attractive.
Women are also conditioned to feel like they have to put more effort into their appearance than men so that likely plays a factor.
Nonsense, I can run in my stilettos and would swim and sleep in them if I could....I have long legs and I love how they look when wearing heels
Rising Star
As a gay man, it’s interesting reading the responses here 🍿
Poor guy is just a I&P Consultant so he is trying hard to be loud and heard. Lol.
Maybe they arent so shallow. As a decent looking guy, I respect woman of all makes and models.
omg looks aren’t everything and highly subjective. you sound immature. plus good looking guys can be insufferable with narcissism and arrogance.
Since when were women cas?
Maybe not all women are Shallow, Conceited, Gold Diggers but I have myself wondered about some situations. Many of em gotta be gold diggin I bet just like a lot of guys are out there using women to hype their lockerroom talk! It's kind of a sad world we live in these days.
Silence sub 140 iq
What i think is maybe looks aren't everything, some people are gorgeous on the outside but ugly on the inside which makes them ugly either way. Some are nice looking outside and inside, that might be the case for the person with the looks in the relationship who also at one time went for looks only to realize looks aren't everything, the good looking guy could have treated her like sh!T where the one that isn't so good looking treats her like his queen. And to her that makes him the better looking one the inside shines out if you give it a chance.
As a guy who’s very average looking, if you know how to lay it down…. They stay 🤷🏻♂️
This is exactly what I told the guy I'm seeing now -- I had a good feeling about him. I pursued him. I can just look at someone and tell if they are a good person or if we will vibe or not. he's cute in my eyes but I don't only seek stereotypical good looking yet I don't necessarily want quasi moto, either.