I will be off until January 2nd & I did not go over to my parents' house yesterday because I was not in the mood to go over there & my mom said "Do you plan to come over one of your off days. Maybe you and your sister can go out and eat. You need to have an outing." Why cant I just be off without having a whole bunch of stuff to do??

I am 52 I have been feeling so tired and when I was in my 40’s. I had a lot more energy. Now I am so tired after work - but I have 4 girls ages, 16-15-13-9. I am going through menopause and my Osteoarthritis hurts somedays and that doesn’t work. Any advice how to keep up with my four girls while feeling crummy?!?

I’m currently struggling with my friend group. I’m a transplant to my current city and ended up making friends with my coworkers (who were also transplants). Now I’m regretting this as I don’t feel like the friendship is deep and things seem competitive. I feel like I have no friends and my real friends (from HS and College) are in a different state and have their own lives. Any advice on dealing with having no real friends where you live?

About to be a new dad. Starting to look into childcare but feeling a little overwhelmed. Would love to hear thoughts/opinions on what to look for besides convenience.

How do you handle personal investments when married? For example, say you wanted to invest in riskier areas like Bitcoin, Ethereum, defi tokens, etc. Would you talk to your wife before every investment even if it’s time sensitive? Or do you have joint investment buckets where you decide together and then personal investment buckets where you invest on your own? Not married so not sure how this typically works

Help!! My bestfriend is doing two months abroad and was trying to fly into turkey when they told her she couldn't because her passport expired within three months.

She went to the US Embassay in Athens knowing she had a month left of traveling, and gave her an emergency passport and punched holes in her exsisting one. Now no country will let her in with her emergency passport.

Can her mom get her a passport in the US and ship it to her? Is there anyway around this?

Thank you!!

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

Struggling with a friendship that has become toxic & fills me with anxiety. various factors have caused us to drift but it feels like nothing I say or do now is right. The issues seem to really come to a head for one when she is drunk, using it to air grievances with me. When sober she doesn’t feel like talking about it. It feels like we are pretending to be best friends because of history but the substance isn’t there and I just want out of it. Can anyone offer advice?

How much of a nest egg would you expect a couple to collectively need in order to retire at 40 and live relatively comfortable (not lavish)?

Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

My partner hates my long working hours.

It is really hard to do well in this business without sacrifice and my partner doesn't like it. To be fair that sacrifice is her... Most nights,over the weekend, and during every meal. She deserves better but I either sacrifice time or sacrifice earning potential.

I don't know how to solve this problem.

Anyone dealt with a Christian parent who has been backsliding since the pandemic? Is this common? And how did you deal with it?

Any moms on here that absolutely love their company and feel 100% supported?

Hi fishes,
Want some feedback for Employees Assistant Program (EAP) by Capgemini which provides facilities to connect with Therapist.
Actually I am going through some tough times(going through a divorce), want to connect to EAP to discuss my mental health issues.
I had connected once and they say that the conversations are strictly confidential.
Just wanted to know do they really keeps stuff confidential or can they inform my Manager regarding the personal conversations.

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

After nearly a year WFH and being with my family 24/7, I’m not entirely sure we actually like each other. Or maybe they don’t like me being at home. Or they don’t like me. Probably the latter 😞

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

People who have cheated in their previous relationships, how did you come to realize the reason behind your behavior? A close friend confided in me that she has cheated in all her previous relationships and struggles to understand the reasoning behind it. She feels a lot of shame and is trying to understand why she does what she does.I have suggested therapy but she is not ready yet. How did you folks arrive at the root cause behind your behavior? Advice? Book suggestions that I can pass along?

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

obligatory post: how will COVID impact human capital? The types of work we do, factors in making a healthy organization, etc.

I'm an accounts receivable expert with 8+ yrs of experience. I started with 96k per annum in 2014, and have worked with 4 different MNCs since then. Currently I'm getting approx 9Lpa, and it feels like I'm pretty much stuck here. Switching jobs increases the pay scale, while staying for a while reflects stability.

When I look at the other member's comments here, it seems majority of folks are earning 20-30Lpa or even more.

Any suggestions from mature audience to achieve a big pay raise.

Hey Fishes,

My candidature is on hold from last 2 months in @Accenture , HR is not responding my calls, I am not able to apply for other suitable positions in the company. Can somebody help me out ..

Well I worked and got appreciated by the client , always exceeded expectations on clients side (have thank you's and appreciation on mail) . My rating is 3 stating "aapko ek hi saal hua h". Got opportunity for a global meeting to attend in Europe but my PM destroyed that opportunity for me. Past 3 days haven't worked a bit ,felt disappointed and am feeling depressed, it would have been my first abroad visit and the Visa is going to haunt me for the rest of my life.

Hello Fishes

We're looking to approach pharma clients for their strategy consulting needs in India, APAC and MENA regions
Any leads would be appreciated
Thanks!

The deadline for a research I’ve been postponing for months is today. I know I’ll send a bad work. Please feel for me

Best happy hour places in dowtown? Office location is brightline station so someting relatively close would be ideal. Trying to take advantage of happy hour since i never come into office😅🥲

Has anyone burned some bridges yet? Just curious 😏

I'm interested in applying for a Senior Program Manager role at Splunk. Does anyone have insights into that specific role there? Culture, balance, career path? Thanks!

Do any of your schools have was to honor/memorialize students who you have lost to violence or accidents or disease?

How common are leaves of absence in PA? I’ve never seen someone out of work longer than a couple weeks other than for parent leave, but people on fishbowl talk about it as something you can reasonably ask for.

Hello Fishes,
I am looking for position in Product Ownerships /Business Analysis /Product Management role.
I can join immediately.

Hello machlion

My bgv is going in halt state for one reason or another.
Today i got mail to upload salary slips april to june.. I have already uploaded slips of april,may. Still i got this mail. Is it normal in bgv process of oracle.

Can I use my personal IPhone with the Mac from Walmart? What are the restrictions that i may face?

Can anyone refer me for Payment BA opening within BNYM

Did anyone used to read The Washington Post’s Date Lab religiously?? I can’t be the only one that was obsessed lol

Asking for my partner, thoughts on living in Arlington vs Alexandria for McKinsey DC? Any good apartment leads are appreciated!

Looking for a derm rec to clear up some athletes foot; anyone satisfied with their skin doc?

DMV employers with reasonable hiring programs- What large employers in the area who hire mid-senior level tech-adjacent consulting talent have the most reasonable hiring practices? A friend of mine tried to refer me to a job and their recruiter told me to expect anywhere from 4-9 rounds of interviews before a decision is made. F that! Please share your own experiences- what employers do this, and which ones recognize there comes a time when you’re just wasting the time of your potential recruits

I know Philadelphia isn’t in the DMV, but it’s close 😭. I’ll be moving there from NY and if anyone can give their thoughts on the “port Richmond” area that would be great.

Looking into moving to NOMA this winter. How is the street parking and safety in general? Will it be a pain for friends to visit?

Is it worth it to live in downtown dc? Around penn triangle? Second year atty so working long hours and it’s a short walk from work.

Hey! Looking for hiking partner and indoor rock wall climbing/belaying partner. I’m a 32F fit and active, looking for an activity partner (male or female) on the weekends. I’m interested in hiking in Shenandoah, 5-10 miles hikes. Indoor rock wall climbing in crystal city or Alexandria. DM me if interested or for more details.

I’m moving to the DC area for a new job and wanted to see if anyone had suggestions on where to live in DC (neighborhoods and apartment buildings if possible). I’m thinking Adams Morgan or Logan circle, but open to suggestions. I’m a female in my late 20s, enjoy going out for a few drinks / dinner, working out, hiking etc. Budget is less than $2k per month and I’ll have to commute to Amazon in Crystal City ~3 days per week.

Hi! Does anyone have a recommendation on a realtor? Looking for a condo in DC

It seems like there are a bunch of really cool new apartment buildings. Probably too expensive to get a1bed but considering finding a roommate to make them affordable. What’s your dream DC apartment building if money didn’t matter?

Best coffee shops to work from?…and go!
I love Call Your Mother Deli on New Hampshire near GWU!

1. Why does this bowl even exist?
2. Who would rather just turn this into a Dating In DC meme page?

Shoutout to VA for enduring a tornado so DC could have this incredible weather

If your job declines you a raise and cut your hours and I’m the only employee who hours are getting cut is there anything I can do

Best way to find an apartment in DC?

Beautiful day out. Anyone wanna grab a drink around navy yard later?

I’m the Affiliate Chair for for the DC Affiliate of the Pancreatic Cancer Action Network and looking for a few volunteers for leadership roles helping the affiliate grow and raise awareness about pancreatic cancer. Message me if you’d like to get involved!

Who trying link and be friends?