If you found out a boss (or colleague) is cheating (gf/bf or spouse), does that make you lose respect for them even when it comes to their work/decisions?

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^ nonsense. It's none of our business. Every person has their own circumstances and story. As long as they perform well, follow the laws, and are professional at work, their private lives are of none of ur concern

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It's all about integrity. There's no shame in divorce. Man (or woman) up and have the stones to end one relationship before starting another. No harm, no foul. Otherwise, it's selfish cowardice and that always shows up in the workplace at some point.

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Yes. Because in our business one's reputation is one's capital - not one's physical prowess or good looks.

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Were they wearing makeup when you found out?

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Ha. Yes. Once a scumbag, always a scumbag. If they'd cheat on the person they have dedicated their life to, what the heck do they care about you or the client?

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Wrong fishguy. Men have morals too

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Not you biz, you probably don't know the circumstances, and really has nothing to do with work

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Nope nor should it. JFK and Clinton did great work and got down everywhere with every woman they could.

No one seems to worry about casting Brad Pitt or Jude Law or signing basically any star athlete.

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It would make me lose respect for them as a person. Don't know if that bleeds over or not because I haven't been in this situation yet.

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Yeah not respecting those who break their marriage vowels makes me a prude 🙄 shoot me

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None of my business? I respectfully disagree.

I consider it a major red flag and a sign of a potential character flaw, and would lose respect for the person, and find it difficult to trust him after learning that. He is actively deceiving the person who most deserves to be able to trust him, and is risking a great deal due to a lack of scruples or a lack of impulse control.

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If it's none of our business, @EY1, why do we know about it? If a leader has the gall to admit to infidelity to a not that close coworker, I would seriously judge their discernment or lack thereof.

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Yea D1 .....I agree - the "a,e,i,o,u, and sometimes y" of a marriage are quite sacred....if you don't respect these, then who knows what you will do with those common consonants! #respectvowels

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Here comes the moral police lol. Such a slippery slope this. Mind your effin business people. Apply this moral compass to ur own lives, not others

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Such a permissive view of marriage outside of the US.There could be so many reasonable sounding rationalizations for justifying deceptive, morally reprehensible behavior

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Maybe - intentionally deceiving a person to whom you've made a commitment is an indicator of character / integrity issue, which would make me question their truthfulness in other areas, including at work.

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Yes.

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I would not stop working with them, but had no longer be someone I talk to after work, at events, or socially. I'd respect them less as a person

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Such a narrow view of marriage in the US. Different people have different values. You don't know if they have an arrangement. If their going through a divorce ect ect.

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