If you’re dabbling in recovery and not sure how it all works, or struggling to identify with people in recovery, then I recommend this book (it’s actually a really good read even if you have some significant sober time too)!

Losing hair really badly!!! :( I dont know if its the thyroid meds or just pregnancy. I'm currently 13 weeks. Any recommendations? I'm doing the hair oil stuff but that will take time.

How do you make time for reading in your schedule? Is it something you do in the early morning? On breaks? Before sleep? I can never seem to fit it in

Has anyone seen Doctor Strange yet? Thinking about going to the cinema for the first time in years :)

Favorite group fitness in philly?

Just started medication - adderal helped but if I didn’t take it for a day the withdrawal was UNBEARABLE. On vyvanse now.. tbh feels like my brain fog started when I started meds?

I’m a recent grad struggling to look after my health when I’m stuck in a cubicle 10+ hours a day. How do you juggle a healthy lifestyle with long hours at a desk?

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

Anyone in DC or Maryland have a good doctor for PCOS?

Sick of people saying don't wear a mask. Wear a mask people, if you have one. The CDC says only wear them when you are sick. But isn't that the tricky part of Covid19? That you can be asymptomatic?

Thinking ahead for next year
With the Pathway to Parenthood program which insurance provider have you used (Anthem BCBS or UHC) ?

Does anyone here do OTF for weight loss? 29F, need to lose ~50lbs and have been doing IF, low carb, high protein diet. Wondering if OTF is enough to get me started. Need to get into an exercise routine. I need the motivation of a class, group etc and don’t have the motivation to workout alone in a gym. TIA!

Help. I’m training for a marathon and I’ve found that during longer runs (both inside and outside) I’m experiencing a ton of mucus / drainage in my throat that I don’t experience day to day....

Anyone here going/gone to Harvard? Curious to know how tough Harvard (mainly MBA) is with ADHD?

Anyone take the CIPM recently? How was it?

Not as relevant now, but how do I get over the feeling of not fitting in at the gym? I am overweight and only see really fit people all around me, so it’s nerve-wrecking and I’m super conscious!

So medication has been revolutionary for me. The last few months I have felt so much better / confident in doing my job. The last few days / last week I’ve felt like I haven’t taken my meds (I have lol) in that I haven’t been able to concentrate and the self-doubt has flown back. Any advice?

At 29 weeks. What are the things to start doing now? Feeling a bit anxious about the closing D date. How can I be better prepared. Have already signed up for birthing classes in Sept and am doing prenatal exercises.

Anyone taking SSRI and Bupropion at the same time for ADHD? Diagnosed as high functioning ADHD with anxiety. Curious to see how this combo has worked for you. Day 3 on it and not sure if I’m feeling a bit of placebo or if it’s actually helping my focus.

Hey guys - I have a slight pronation and got recommended should that adjust the gait so my feet are level. Have been picking up running again during lockdown and now my knees hurt

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When you align objects, is there some way to “pin” down one object? Ex. I want to align object A to the center of object B, not the other way around.

My understanding is that it uses the larger object as the reference but wondering if you can swap that

Wondering what people think about my situation. I’ve been offered a role with a company. The job description didn’t mention college degree as a requirement. On my CV I have a section listed as “Education” and under it I have “Business Studies” with the university name and the 3 years that I attended the course (2.5 to be exact). It’s a 4 year degree and under this I have my High School equivalent with the years I attended there. The education wasn’t mentioned in the interviews. Continued below.

Does Steve Ballmer own up to his mistakes at Microsoft these days?

Random/odd question if anyone knows the answer: if you are a corporation in state A (California), can you operate as a sole proprietorship in State B (Massachusetts), and have your website list the name of your company and both states in which you operate? Asking for civil procedure purposes in Massachusetts and wondering if the State A Corp is an unregistered foreign Corp in State B that I can tattle on. Polling the audience!

In my company, we have a staff of customer support agents to resolve user concerns, but they prefer to complain on social media and never call the number we give them. Should we transfer the agents to the Social Media platforms or insistently try to get them to call us?

Anyone applying to/currently enrolled/completed Cornell’s Metro NYC EMBA? I just got accepted and I’m looking to connect with anyone who’s gone that route.

Hi Fellow Fishies,

I am reaching out because I was recently contacted to interview for Cigna Provider Engagement Development Program. I wanted to see if I could connect with anyone on here that I can help give a breakdown of what this program entails, day-to-day, and WLB. Any tips on the interview and interview process for anyone working in this position? I would be truly grateful for any help or information that can be provided!

Cigna

My brother recently graduated high school and wants to work for a year or two before he starts his undergrad. What sort of jobs should he be looking for that could help his resume in the future? He eventually wants to pursue engineering

Is it true that less than 20% of engineers are women, even when there are so many programs specifically focused on getting females into STEM fields? It seems like it should be more evenly distributed

What’s is like working for Disneyworld as an engineer?

Any good books/reads to learn aspects of Account Management / Engagement Management in context of tech consulting?

Expecting an offer this week or early next week, but want to know when you start negotiating the salary? When you receive the call from the company or wait until receiving the formal offer letter? And how should the negotiation start? Through phone calls or emails? Didn’t use recruiter for this position, so I don’t know what is the process here.

Anyone here looking for a rockstar SDR Manager with 2 YOE? 🫶

Google onsite to HC rate? Is it around 50%? Do you need to get 3 leaning hires to make it to HC?

Need referral for SAP EWM in IBM. YOE - 4.5

Anyone has ever sent an email to the wrong recipient ? Could you please tell me how you’ve dealt with this. The recipient is not a party to the action.

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

Wrapping up 2021...

Do you have any reflections on this year? Biggest takeaways? How will you close it out?

Drop below to share 👇

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Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

First in-person retreat in a while coming up and first for me at this particular firm. Several people have mentioned that much of the bonding etc happens while drinking. I am newly sober and now worried about being in this environment, any tips for making it through the weekend? Similar experiences?

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

Any interest in doing a daily reflections thread? In the spirit of rotation one of us would be responsible for posting the link and kicking off the share for a month at a time??

Hi. So grateful for this bowl! I’m 16 months sober. Fairly new to ACN just curious what types of challenges you’ve faced and how you’ve overcome them?

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

Have been sober for many years but currently relapsed and am in a downward spiral. I’m close to losing my family but I can’t seem to get my head together. Feel like I need a few months out, maybe take some time off work… has anyone done similar and did it help?

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!