I'm dealing with a toxic boss at one of my jobs. It's tempting to just quit... but then I'd have to rebalance everything, and finding a replacement gig takes time. Do I tough it out, or prioritize my mental health?

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Here’re two things I would consider:
1. What’s within my control that I can do to potentially change my bosses’ behavior towards me? How specifically are they being “toxic” and what can you do about that? (E.g. if they have unclear expectations - did you ask them to clarify further?)
2. What’s the actual cost (not only monetary) of you staying in that job?

At the end of the day, nothing’s more important than your overall wellbeing.

Wish you all the best!

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