I’m feeling so exhausted. Partly bc of work. Partly because bath and bed have become a nightmarish battle with my 3 year old, and partly bc of family stress with my parents. I feel guilty bc I try to give my son at least 45-60 minutes of solid playtime/walks/bike rides when he gets home. But every night at like 7:30-8 he’s begging me to keep playing when I’m so ready to just sit and decompress.

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Just keep grinding, there is no perfect solution to this challenge. Keep doing your best. It’s your day-after-day presence with and love of your child that matters, not whether or not you have to tap out every once in awhile. Give yourself a break. We have hard jobs and we want to be great parents and our kids just want us 24/7. Something has to give at times.

-Exhausted Partner and dad of 3 posting at 1:30am while baby’s eyes are wide open in crib and client video call starts in 5.5 hours.

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Needed to hear this. Thanks

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Nothing to feel guilty about at that age. Quality over quantity. The fact that you even asked for advice shows you’re doing your best to be the father you can be.
- Also a tired dad of 3 (8, 6, and 2)

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Same boat brother.

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This is why we’re wired and built to have kids much earlier in life, I think. It’s hard to match their energy level.

Keep grinding, OP. Kids are always going to beg to keep playing. Tale as old as time.

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Thanks all - appreciate the support!

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